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  1. Alice89

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    I’m feeling really down lately because of my dysphoria it’s making me want to curl up and disappear. I’m really hating my male parts and am starting to question whether I’m just kidding myself by identifying as gender fluid. Maybe I am trans. Does anyone else feel like this and how do you cope?
     
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    A lot of people go down this road. I went too. I thought I was gender fluid or agender or something like that. Then I realised... hey, I feel the need to identify as something other than female because I'm a guy on the inside and this is the whole point of this!

    As for the bad mood, idk :/ Maybe try to not concentrate on it? Do some self care?
     
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    Thank you for the advice. What did you do when you realised that? (If you don’t mine me asking)
     
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    Nothing too different from before, I guess. But it allowed me to understand a lot more and later come out in a way that truly reflected what I felt.

    It was a natural path. I never thought I could not be cis in childhood. Then I felt like maybe I'm somewhere between genders, that seemed to fit, I felt like dressing to not seem like a female, it seemed to inhibit me socially from what I wanted (seeming like a girl), and then when I succeeded at it, it suddenly clicked that I am a guy, others stated to see a guy in me and that it was all about being masculine, and it just felt right. I guess my transition stops on dressing the part, coming out, and name change, however.
     
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    How did your friends and family take it when you started dressing more masculine? Did you have support?
     
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    Almost no problems on the part of the family, friends said nothing, however, it was at the same time as I went to college and people at school didn't know my feminine version at all. Which was a good move.
     
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    I can imagine that helped a lot?
     
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    That nobody knew me from when I wore feminine stuff? Or an okay attitude of those who knew me before?
     
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    Not that my family didn't have any problems at all with it, but they were rather minor and I shop for myself too. I had a problem with dressing masculine for some time because I didn't know how to do it. And there was the largest problem with family members when I was already doing stuff and knew but I was not out to them and they were worried and tried to convince me that I need to be pretty or something, or that I want to be pretty. When I came out, they stopped doing this and became glad that I buy clothes at all and want any at all, before that I was rather apathetic about the way I looked.
     
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    That is my biggest problem, I have no idea how to dress feminine. It sounds really silly in my head but the truth is I don’t even know where to start :/. I know that I would be more comfortable in womenswear but I’m just clueless.
     
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    I can't help with that, I'm sorry :/ Women's clothes always confused me.
    Maybe you can try to shop and see what you like? Start with basic women's clothes, nothing fancy. Then add a few more trendy accents. A lot of women do it like this.
     
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    Thank you for the advice. If there is anything I can help you with please don’t hesitate to ask or send me a pm. :slight_smile:
     
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    Sure :slight_smile:
     
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