i know the title doesn't make sense as popular as it is, but i can't help but think about it, i see a lot of people on online forums who claim they are gay and who like woman but also they experimented with men and they enjoyed it, it's kind of confusing me again, so are straight people who experiment with the same sex and enjoy it really straight? or bisexual?
Probably bisexual if they're older than like 20 when they do it. I say 20 because teenage boys are just really horny, and anything that satisfies their horniness would be enjoyable for the most part no matter who or what it's with.
If you claim to be straight but enjoy sleeping with members of the same sex, that means you are at least bisexual. Truly straight guys wouldn't dream of sleeping other guys unless they gay porn stars.
the truly Straight folks ive spoken to all can recognize if a person of the same gender is attractive or not--if theyre comfortable w their own sexuality its gone so far as saying they appreciated the physical figure as well. but it never goes beyond aesthetic attraction or "oh i wish i had her boobs!". or straight men who say gay things to make other men uncomfortable (usually very sexual and explicit in nature). generally speaking there isnt any inherent Real Desire for intimacy--so is it possible for someone whos experimenting to be straight? sure! but if you return to it over and over and genuinely enjoy/long for it, then thats something that would perhaps indicate a non-straight orientation. however, of course i could be wrong--it is just an opinion. ^^ll
Simple experimentation doesn't mean much of anything. I mean, I hooked up with a curious guy before. After he finished he told me he enjoyed it, but he could tell it wasn't for him, no biggie. It's more when someone is consistently hooking up with someone of the same sex and enjoying it that they claim they're straight is when I, personally, question. Of course, I also know a guy who spent his teen years regularly bottoming for guys and really enjoying it but is no longer really into guys. My personal opinion is don't worry about it too much. People care too much about labels.
I second this. I totally believe someone can be straight and totally have sex with people of the same gender. I think this because I’m 100% gay and I did have sex my ex. I mean it wasn’t a lot but I wasn’t really open to sexuality either. For some people sexual orientation is more defined by romantic feelings and less by who you can reach completetion with. So that’s why some guys say they are straight but will have sexual encounters with guys. This is just my opinion though I’m no expert lol.
There's an emerging, opposing viewpoint to this (from a number of clinical professionals) that says that there are straight men who by all accounts are absolutely straight, but enjoy the physical stimulation of sex with other men. This gets into some interesting areas of arousal and attraction, and it is emerging, not mature, thinking. But suffice it to say that I don't think we can necessarily say that any guy who has sex with another guy is gay or bi. Many other factors and a lot of nuance.
Yeah, I could be one of those guys. Except I don't claim to be straight. But that leads me to worry that I am contributing to bi-erasure, because... well whatever. (There was a thread, I forget where, on this topic recently and the OP was justifiably annoyed at people who — at least superficially — present like me.) Like you say, interesting. The full story is not yet told!
I think that different men and women can and CAN'T go there - with someone of their own gender. The number of things that play into it are huge. For some people, it seems that early experimentation was just that and ended, while some look at it as some sort of traumatic event that needs to be swept under the rug. There's a group of people for whom it opened the flood gates. Or something like that.
At the end of the day, don’t we all just want to love and/or be loved back? I know I do. Even without the physical aspect of it. Truly what is in your heart and to express it, knowing the other person is there to support you.
