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Friend wants me to go to conversation therapy

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Shasta, Jan 17, 2019.

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  1. Shasta

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    a friend wants me to go to conversation therapy and seems determined to fix me.
     
    #1 Shasta, Jan 17, 2019
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    Someone who wants you to go to such a vile place and thinks that homosexuality can be "fixed" is no friend. My advice? Drop them and don't associate with them.
     
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    Looks like this person isn’t really your friend.
     
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    If this is the same person you have talked about in the past then you definitely need to drop them for good. "Sponsor" or not this person is not healthy to be around at all.
     
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    A friend should accept you as you are, no if’s or buts.
    Having gone through a milder version of conversion therapy, I can tell you that it is very harmful.
    Try bringing your friend to see the film “Boy erased “
    If someone can’t accept all of you they don’t deserve to have you their life.
     
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    I know it sounds harsh, but I agree with others. If someone is insisting and bothering you to go to that place, then you should reconsider if that friendship is worth it.

    I understand some people may not realize that "conversion" is an extremely harmful (besides not being effective, as there is nothing to "fix") process. However, a friend shouldn't try to push you into something that won't be positive for you, especially if you already made it clear that you aren't interested. If the person keeps insisting in it, then I don't think that person is respecting you space, regardless if he/she understands or not how flawed and harmful this "conversion" process is.
     
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    even if a friend does not understand why you are gay (or something else) they should want the best for you, and the best thing for you is definitely not conversion therapy. i feel like that 'friend' is honestly not a good person to keep around like others said. even if someone does not understand another person, they should not encourage conversion therapy. it is a terrible and dehumanizing thing to go through. they might not know it is horrible, but, they still want you to change something that doesnt effect them in the slightest. which is not what a friend should want for anyone.
     
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    Like others have said, conversion therapy is a pseudoscience that can seriously harm an LGBT person mental, and sometimes physical, health. Not all friendships last forever, so don't feel like you have to spend time with someone who is so ignorant they think this is a "solution". You can't control their beliefs, but you can control how much time you spend with them.
     
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    DON'T.

    It doesn't work, and all it's going to do is screw you up in the head. Your sexuality is NOT something that needs "fixing". It's not unnatural, it's not an abomination. Do you know how many animals in nature have been witnessed in same-sex behavior? If this "friend" can't accept you for who you are, cut them right out of your life. Nobody needs that kind of toxicity.
     
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    That person isn't a friend. You deserve someone who accepts you as you are. It does more damage than solves from things i have read. Get rid!!
     
    #10 iosguy, Jan 28, 2019
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