Does coming out feel like you're turning into a different person?

It was a whole new world when I came out. It is still confusing and it will be for a long time. I have trying to figure this out for the last 11 years

 

It doesn't feel like turning into a different person really - more like feeling like you've already been a different person your entire life and now finally see who you've actually been on the inside the entire time.

It's normal though.

 

I wouldn't say so. But it has given me the opportunity for personal growth - so yeah, I have changed quite a bit.

 

I can tell you it's such a reliving experience I came out lasnight to my wife mom and friend I don't have to hide who I am anymore

 

Changes happen. Sometimes it take time before they set in. This is big for you, but that doesn't mean it has to be a scary thing. Sexuality is an amazing aspect of life even though it can be an incredibly bumpy road. I'm sorry you're dealing with such confusion especially under the circumstances. If you're feeling yourself distance from your family and husband, then maybe addressing it with them is important to figure this out. Of course, that's completely your decision though. This is never easy to deal with, but once you figure yourself out maybe things might just start to look up.

 

i wish i could offer something more constructive. but know that even this is temporary. id advise talking to an lgbt positive therapist on how youd like to proceed

 

Exactly the same for me except opposite. Was married, divorced and with a long term gf when I started to realize I preferred men. Suddenly women lost all their appeal and started to have problems becoming aroused unless I fantasized about a guy. Finally even that didn’t work and I knew this 100% straight guy had done a180. It’s been over 2 years and I am happily 100% gay in a relationship with a wonderful guy. Like you I would have classified myself as women crazy a little more than 2 yrs ago. Now the idea grosses me out. We all change.

 

@Butterfly6 I forget, did you ever talk with your ob/gyn about possible hormonal fluctuations?

When coming out/coming to terms with our sexuality, we all go through different phases sometimes back and forth, two steps forward one back or vice versa. There is no set 'right' path for coming out. Take it each day, each moment at a time and relax. Too much stress or overthinking is just going to drive you crazy. Don't make any rash decisions or judgement calls. I know it all seems so 'Urgent' when in the moment. That is when you need to take a deep breath and count to 10, relax, regroup and let your mind calm.

Have you had a chance to find a counselor in your area? If not, it would be a good idea to have one just so they can help bounce ideas around with you so you don't feel all bottled up. There's no shame in needing to talk to someone. If not that, maybe start journaling your thoughts. That way when not stressed you can read through it and maybe help yourself with the answers.

 

i came out to family when eleven because my mom popped open my bedroom door when I was cunnilingusing my friend very obviously. I didn't feel any different after confirming to my family i was intimately involved with boys and girls. perhaps age affects how the confession affects you.

 

For me, it feels like the true inner person has surfaced onto the outta person. It was just deeply hidden, but screaming to get out. He's now out and proud. You change a bit. I like to run, wear tight tops and t shirts, I have more self confidence and people have noticed it!! I'm finally happy, it only took 42 yrs!!!! Light bulb moment....

 

I get how your feeling. I started recognizing these feelings a few months ago after something came up in therapy. It was scary and forgot about it when I had a brief sexual encounter w a male friend. Since the holidays I’ve been exploring my feelings more and I feel as if an emotional wrecking ball is hitting me and sometimes I start crying. My profile has been posted on an online dating site but I have no interest in meeting any men yet I haven’t taken it down. It’s as if I’m caught between two worlds and don’t know what to do. I’m realizing how much our sexuality makes us who we are, which is why I feel I’m being pushed into an unknown stratosphere.

I am single so I don’t have the issue with a family, which I’m sure makes dealing with this more complex.

 

What was the turning point for you? That got you to start realizing

 

dont feel womanly? as in questioning gender or just--feeling smth else?

 

Yep.