This is one of my pet peeves. Especially when it comes from a customer at work who I have never met before. Why would you even tell a complete stranger you've only known for 3 seconds to "cheer up" ? You don't know what's going on in my life. I might have a valid reason for looking miserable. I might be going through a family crisis at home. I might have a pet that's just died. I might have broken up with my long term partner. I might have a child who is being bullied at school. I might have been diagnosed with a serious illness. I might be serving an irritating customer who is getting on my nerves. Or, I might just not be in the mood to give a big beaming smile right now. Whatever my reasons are for looking down, it's none of your freaking business. Just be a good customer, finish your shopping, say thank you, and be on your way. Don't tell me how I should be feeling. Cunt.
I hate it when people tell me to 'cheer up'. Like, if I want to curl up on my floor with My Chemical Romance blasting into my earbuds and bawl my eyes out, just let me. It's none of your business how I'm feeling.
If customers told me to cheer up, I'd be pissed. It probably has good intent, but who looks super happy at work? lol
this is called stroking and person is just trying to get your attention and doesn't really care about how you feel. I have learned to ignore strangers and people I know don't like me. on the other hand it is an ice breaker to jump into if you are emotionally stimulated by the person stroking you.
then perhaps the next time someone tells me to cheer up, I'll respond with "stop being an attention whore."
well yeah, I mean even if you love your job, you're going to have days where you are stressed and have a lot on your mind. If an important task needs doing by a set deadline, or if you are being heckled by someone in upper management, or if a colleague has made a mistake that you need to rectify, or if someone has called in sick and you have to provide cover, then that can be a lot to deal with, and having some dipshit customer saying "cheer up, things could be worse" is not helpful. What the hell do they know about what I'm dealing with?
You're not intruding on anyone's happiness by being your miserable self, they are intruding on your misery. It's fucking rude.
I get this often too ...from people who would probably implode if they spent a day in my head with my thoughts. It annoys me but in the end they're trying...so I just shrug it off now...
When someone is telling you to cheer up, what they're really saying is that they are uncomfortable with your mood. If they genuinely cared, they would ask how your day is, empathize with you, and listen. But many people simply don't have the vulnerability to open themselves up to empathy, because it means going into a place within them where they've felt what you're feeling. So it's much easier to say "cheer up" (which has likely never, ever helped anyone, anywhere), they can feel like they did something, and never have to deal with pesky feelings.
