Being stealth with transphobic housemate

I haven't been in your situation before but if your under full control of the situation and manage the house wipe the transphobic one out of the equation if not hide it like your life depends on it because honestly it might well depend on how well your able to hide it and once your able to secure somewhere to live on your own you'll be completely fine

 

I'd just like to say that this is a horrendous situation to be stuck in for you and must be tearing you apart a little. I have never been in this situation before and have only a little advice.
If you feel genuinely threatened about the idea that he would hurt you if you told him, then get yourself out of there! You don't have to tell anybody anything but if you do want to share you should be comfortable.
If you think that he could just do with an education then try and talk to him about it I guess. I had a family member who was very anti-gay and transphobic. After a little bit of me chatting to him and taking him to bars and clubs he adjusted to the idea (he still doesn't like it but his PoV are not so extreme).
You shouldn't have to live in fear and if you are get out!

 

I just hope things change so you can be yourself.

Not even sure what to say other than I support you.
Let me know how things are going.

 

Exactly lets just hope you can convince him to change his opinion and it is possible even some of the most despicable people in the world can change into truly good people i have no doubts he can't as well

 

What ever happens you are great the way you are.

Have a good evening.

 

Is the other guy potentially supportive or tolerant? If the transphobic guy found out and lost his temper - I hope it doesn't happen - could the other guy talk some sense into him?

 

Your safety is the number one thing. If you have transitioned medically and pass you can just take it as having a creepy house mate. I have had those. It's stupid and consuming but that arrangement won't last forever and you can't change him.

It could potentially be harder if you are pre-transition. That's the whole topic on it's own. Then you shoud maybe try to find another place if you can.

I study with a group of young dudes who crack jokes about transpeople, autism etc. all the time. I am trans and have aspergers. They know I am older than they are although I look young. They respect my age. I am stealth. If I was younger I would feel like a sheep in a pack of wolves. Now I am more like a bear they stay away from.

I would hate it if I had to live with them. That would be an ordeal.