Things Non-LGBT People Say...

What the HELL? sorry if you are afended by HELL

 

How can you like both boys and girls ?

 

On lesbian couples adopting: "it's not healthy for kids to be raised without a father figure"
Nevermind that many many kids from divorced parents are raised by single moms and turn out just fine.

 

So, I came out as nonbinary to my friends and coaches from team, between the 2 teams there were 3 coaches and 48 skaters. I specifically asked for them to not tell anyone. One of the coaches told my parents.
Parents: You're female because that's what you were born as! Also, you can't trust teenagers to keep secrets! Go to an adult that we approve of!
Me: Actually, one of those adults you approve of ratted me out, while the 48 teenagers I trusted didn't tell anyone, so...teenagers win.

 

Upon coming out to my mother:
"It's probably just a phase, you won't be liking girls 5 years down the road."
"....mom, I've been bi for almost 5-7 years now..."

Coming out to my father:
"It's just...liking girls, it's wrong, you know? It's probably just a phase that you'll grow out of. It's not confirmed."

Debating LGBT with a homophobic guy in class:
(Talking about trans people using public toilets)
"Then do you expect a huge man with a beard enter a female toilet because he claims he's a female? That's just wrong! He could be a rapist for all we know."

(Talking about a classmate's pronouns)
Him: "We don't call her a 'he', because she's born female. She's not a guy. So obviously we'll call Silva (fake name, trans classmate) a she. It makes me uncomfortable when I call her a male, you know?"
Me: "Yea, and can you think how uncomfortable it makes Silva when you call him a female? He's obviously uncomfortable with it. It's like, if I called you a female? You're uncomfortable with it, right?"
Him: "Obviously, because I'm a guy. And you have no reason of calling me a female, what the hell? Of course I'm uncomfortable, it's so weird."
Me: "Yea, same thing with Silva. It feels weird for him."
Him: "But she's born a female! I don't care, I'm just gonna refer to people as how they were born. It's wrong if I don't."

 

"Which one of you is the 'guy'?"
Ummmm.... we're both women.

A few weeks ago a coworker and I were talking about my SO, using her name. A new lady in training asked who Kristina was.

Co-worker: "she's her girlfriend."
Me: "Actually, she's my fiance. "
New girl: "oh, um.... so what made you want to swing that way?"

 

Something I noticed about most things straight people say to try to argue(like "is it because of abuse, you just haven't found the right opposite sex yet, it's a phase, it's a choice, etc)almost all of those excuses can be rebuffed with logic easily and could be figured out if given some thought. Like, even if you were abused by the opposite sex, that doesn't equate to you being attracted to the same sex, even if you're scared of the opposite sex.

 

"How do you know if you've never had a girlfriend?"

How do you know you're straight if you've never had a partner of the same sex? See how stupid that sounds???

 

Exactly!! Most of those questions and excuses are so illogical, they'd figure it out if they took one second to think rather than try to come up with all kinds of excuses to make it not real.

 

"But how could you not like me?" - straight, married, female best friend shortly after I came out to her.

I dunno, the same way I didn't fall for my male best friend? I swear she took the fact that I wasn't secretly in love with her all these years as some sort of insult.

 

Did you guys work it out and stay friends?

 

One of the most annoying things i have heard, personally, is "i don't believe you" or as many other people mentioned, "its just a phase"

 

I get that so much, or the one I hate the most "you're not the type"

 

This may deserve a place in this thread's hall of fame. I wish I knew this girl. That was a comeback of legendary proportions.

 

i concur, it does belong in the hall of fame, and i may use it if the circumstances come up

 

"Yo, bro."

 

"oh you're bisexual? Your boyfriend must love that"
"You can't be gay! Your hair..."
"You're bi? We'll see.."
"Don't you have a carpet to get back to licking" still the weirdest/funniest insult i've recieved

 

I’ll never forget when i told my ex best friend i was bi, she said “as long as you don’t hit on me” and “how do two girls have sex?”

 

"You're bisexual? Nah you're gay, you just haven't truly accepted it yet."

Or " Oh so you're half gay then. Cool."

Why is the existence of bisexuality so unreal for some people? -,-

 

I've really noticed recently just how many little tiny things come up in casual conversation and general social interactions that imply that being gay is wrong/weird/undesirable/funny. It's almost hard to describe them because they're so small, just things like laughter and facial expressions if there's a hint of a mention of it. All from people with openly-gay friends who would be shocked if anyone described them as homophobic. I feel like I've become super-sensitised to it.