How can you determine your sexuality as a demisexual person?

Not really sure if I’m demisexual but I’m someone that doesn’t experience sexual attraction to someone very frequently. For me it was more about how I imagined my future. At this moment I can only imagine myself living the rest of my life with a woman and that image is what feels right and true to myself.

 

It's just...a feeling, I suppose? I realized I was bi yeeeears before realizing I was demisexual- accepted myself as bisexual maybe close to 5+ years ago? Compared to realizing/ confirming I was demisexual (just a few weeks ago).

For me, when I came out as bi, I had very few urges of "Oh damn, I wanna bang that person." And cuz of that, I always thought that I was ace, in a way. I never did get to the bottom of that feeling, though I did know that I was attracted to both male and females (ironic, considering I'm genderfluid). But like I said, never wanted to bang any of them.

And then like, a week ago, I was talking to my boyfriend (who I'm attracted to, both physically and mentally) and it finally hit me- I'm probably demisexual, aren't I? I think for me, I finally understood why I was attracted to both male and females but never wanted to do anything sexual with them sans my boyfriend.

Like...just because you're demisexual dosen't mean you can't be attracted to simply one gender, or multiple genders. You've just got to keep an open mind when considering which gender you're attracted to, and take your time. Hopefully my experience helped, even a little ^ ^;