Giving Gay Another Chance...

Were you scared to come out at first

 

I’m telling you I could tell you every detail of that night. Don’t stress yourself out too much over it. You’ve found a community that is going to support you (that’d be us lol), there’s no pressure for you to be anyone but yourself, and at the end of the day life is short grab as much fun as possible!

 

Damn why am I the only one who thinks that life is simply too damn long! And I'm only 23!

 

I’ve never heard anyone say that... and well... don’t have a response! This is a first...

 

Can u help me out

 

Not sure who this is directed to? Is it a question/issue/statement on your thread or here? Did I miss it?

 

I should come out to my friends at school?

 

Wow! That’s a very big step when it comes to “coming out” it’s such a personal decision you really have to decide when it’s the right time and who are the people you want to come out to... if you’re ready I say go for it I mean if you have one friend you’re closer to that you feel will be really receptive and you can trust maybe start there

 

Thank you for the advice

 

I came out to friends first and then shortly after to family. It was scary but at the same time exhilarating to finally say out loud I was gay. My fears of being found out faded away , the feeling of release was incredible. Once I came out my interest in women bottomed out to zero. In a strange way this too was a relief, almost a validation of my sexuality. I no longer had to stress out over why I found women less and less attractive as sexual partners. It allowed me the freedom to see other men as viable sexual and emotional partners which rocked my world! I was proud to say when asked that I was gay. Wish you the best.

 

Yaah, I'm still rationalizing that I'm actually straight and all this same-sex interest is just because I've isolated myself socially with hardly any male friends. Never mind about how great it was to sleep with that guy all those years ago, and how comfortable and right it felt to hang out with his gay friends. I don’t know if the rationalizing ever totally stops.

 

I’m curious... and I know these are personal questions no pressure to answer just thought I’d ask... What do you think the reasons are for the rationalizations? I mean, why do you need to be straight?

 

Actually, thanks for asking. I need to be straight because I'm a devoted family guy, with a wife and 4 kids who are depending on me. It's what I've always wanted, and it's threatened by me being anything other than straight.

 

My ex and I didn’t have kids. I couldn’t imagine that being added to the equation honestly. I do hate the idea of you not getting to be... well you! I mean all of you. The family man and the SevnButton.

 

Thanks @Imstillstanding. That truly warms my heart that you understand. My story is not yet fully written, so maybe I will figure out how to be all of who I am.

 

Amiready good for you. You sound as if you are really ready to finally embrace your homosexuality. You will not regret it. Sure there will be a bump or two on the way but well worth it. I don’t have the writing skills to fully express the total happiness, contentment, sexual fulfillment and just plain every day enjoyment I get from being involved with another man. 3 years ago if you told me I would be involved in an emotional, romantic sexual relationship with another man I would have called you crazy. Actually you would have been psychic. Reach out if I can help you on your path to the gay lifestyle you want.
Good luck, keep moving forward!