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What are you thinking?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Mirko, Feb 28, 2017.

  1. LaneyM

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    I was raised in a very conservative Catholic home, and homeschooled so most people I associated with before the age of 16 shared all my family's beliefs. Religion can be very damaging and hard to shake, especially if you really did believe in it at some point. It's a large part of the reason I am only coming to terms with my sexuality now (at 27). I also struggled a lot with fears as my personal beliefs began to contradict with those of the church as a teen. I was afraid of going to hell, somehow damning my family to hell (Catholics love their guilt), etc., as well as being rejected by my family. Therapy has helped tremendously. The most amazing experience for me was attending college - I'm forever grateful my family couldn't afford to send me to a Catholic one and I went to the local school instead! Learning different viewpoints and beliefs, meeting people of all walks of life and seeing the beauty of a world I'd always been taught was essentially taken over by sin, helped me realize I could be a happy and compassionate person without religion. Your girlfriend is very brave for taking steps to live authentically, she will be happier in the end!
     
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    I was raised a devout Mormon. I'm even from Utah. I came out over twenty-five years ago. Most of the people I came out to had literally never met an out gay person before. It was hard for my family but they rallied because they love me. And, the thing is, in my experience, while Mormons may have some beliefs that we may not agree with, most of them care deeply about their families and communities. Because I visited my parents often in Utah I've had a lot of interaction with a lot of Mormons over the years as an out gay man, generally with partner in tow. And people have always been polite and respectful--actually they haven't been just that, they've been genuinely warm. I can honestly say that my husband was one of my parents' favorite people in the world. If I could make one change in my early life I would have had more faith in the people around me earlier...
     
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    One of the weirdest things about getting used to the idea of dating a guy was figuring out which "rules" about dating fit our lives and which rules we were going to throw out. (Spoiler alert: most dating rules suck, straight people need our help, and omg did we dodge a bullet by not having the pressure to follow them)

    We were talking one night and he asked me if I liked getting flowers. Turns out I had never gotten flowers before and I had no fucking idea if I liked getting flowers. Part of me was worried of being "too girly" and less of a man to be the one getting the flowers, so we decided to get each other flowers and see if we liked it.

    7 years later and surprising each other with flowers is still one of our favorite things to do. These are the flowers he got me for my birthday yesterday :slight_smile:

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    Zoey, my pug had to be put down today. She was 15 years old. She had a good long life. I hope she has reunited with my mother in the afterlife.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear that. :frowning2:
     
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    Aww... I’m sorry, that really sucks. :frowning2:
     
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    This time of year just kills me. I look at everyone else and what they're doing for the holidays, spending it with friends and family, and I'm here, alone. Nobody coming over to celebrate anything. This time of year just comes and goes with no fanfare for me. And all because my mother decided to join a cultish religion and decided that, because we all still live together and "under her roof", that nobody else gets to do anything, either. Hell, if she knew I have a tree down here, she'd lose her shit. And it's not like I have any friends I can celebrate it with. So I spend it alone, with just my little tree that won't have any presents under it come December 25th.

    I really do hate this time of year. I just spend an entire month angry, waiting for January 1st so it can be over.
     
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    Great idea for my short story, but what else could I add...
     
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    There was a news article about this happening on Amazon. According to the article, the sellers create phantom users, buy their own products and "gift" them to anybody. The reason for this is since they have "bought" the product, the Amazon system allows them to post glowing reviews about their product/purchase. Maybe you should check out the reviews for this particular item to see if anything like that pops up. Also, the news article said you should report this to Amazon customer service, as other data items in your profile could have been compromised.
     
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    So sorry to hear Brad. (*hug*)
     
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    I just want the holiday season to be over. Thought I picked myself up okay, but Xmas is just making it worse
     
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    About how im dreading Christmas.

    Dont get me wrong, i like my family and appreciate them. But when we are all together it seems so... tense. My mom has even mentioned she finds it awkward and she sort of needs to be "fake" around the rest of the family. I feel the same way. (and i also have to deal with my least favourite family member, which is a shame) Not to mention i am introverted and too much social interaction drains me and makes me mentally tired.

    I feel like they have treated me a bit differently ever since i came out... Im hoping im not the source for the awkwardness. (i dont think i am)

    Christmas/other holidays sadly just lose their charm as you get older.
     
  13. Mirko

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    Thinking about whether buying another bookcase was a good idea. Hmm....
     
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    I feel like you've posted that before aha
     
  15. Mirko

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    It's quite possible! Only this time around I actually went ahead and ordered one. Ikea online shopping is dangerous.

    Odly enough, it's the first time I have some second thoughts about buying a bookcase.
     
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    I'm pretty sure I'm still glowing. I had a wonderful date earlier tonight and I'm really excited to see her again :blush:
     
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    You can never have enough books.
     
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    I have enough books I should try and organize now, maybe even donate/sell a couple... ._.
     
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    Seems like I'm finally getting over being sick for basically all of December
     
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    Sadly i'm ready to cut my losses and forget about the friend who's ignoring me.