honestly I've been questing my sexuality recently. but this isntisthe first I been thinking about it. am attracted to girls and I like everything about girls. but i also like the thought of doing stuff with a guy that turns me on at times. but I wouldnt date a guy iIwould just want to do stuff with them. would that make me a little bit bi or gay
hello my friend. i think it is possible tht it is sexual attraction to men. doesnt make u gay straight or anything just yet. just go with the flow. do what feels good.
so that doesn't categorize my sexuality at all it. i just good with what iIlike best then is that it ?
Hey felixdecat... Yea don’t feel like you have to pick gay straight or bi immediately... I mean questioning is a perfectly ok place to be take your time and discover where you fall... I am curious about one thing you mentioned. You said you were attracted to guys but would never date them, may I ask why?
honestly i wouldn't date a guy because i dont like how guys look and I cant see myself dating a guy and iImight date one in private. but I cant see myself kissing or making out wirh a guy it makes me start to freak out and say to myself that am straight and not gay and i start to wonder if am mentally stable
Well, I’m not a doctor, so I can’t comment on your mental stability. I can tell you that when I was questioning my sexuality I felt the same way. Even after I accepted I was gay, I started therapy and felt like I was losing it. I had two thoughts constantly. The “gay” me and the “straight” me. To every question... everything thing I saw, and heard. It was a lot. No one can tell you who you are, but it seems it’s more about what others will think (I may date in private) and maybe a little fear of what it would mean if you were with a guy (the idea of kissing a guy you freak out). These are the things to really kinda work through, then it’ll be easier to address you’re sexuality no matter what it is on the other end
so what ur saying is that iIshould work on not having the fear of kissing a guy and embrace it and experimenting with what I feel
iIfear it because what if someone spreads rumors or the guy i interacted with starts to spread it around (one of my friends which is bi iItold him about it and he was supportusu and told me if I ever want to experience it with a guy that he would let me to see how I feel about it) what do u think about that aswell
I gotcha. Well, I’m not gonna say that it can’t happen, it shouldn’t (it’s never cool to out someone). You just have to talk with people you can trust, you know and I mean there’s not rush to figure it out! Honestly, don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You’ve already talked to a friend who’s bi? That’s a great step... just take your time sorting it all out
youre right i need to figure it out but am just so overwhelmed by just thinking about it. but i just want to feel normal again
youre right everyone is special and unique in there own way. i appreciate for all of the advice you gave me
Yeah I think so. Based on my browsing of other public forums and bulletin-boards, many people ask (with maybe some worry in their voice) if they are weird for being turned on by (some people of) the same gender, but still "feel" straight. And many more chime in to the thread saying "me too". I can vouch for penises being interesting. And all other genitals. And ears. And etc... A sexual preference identity crisis is not much fun. But I think in this case you can relax. Of course you still have to think of something to tell "them" — that is, if you bother to tell them at all. The supermarket checker doesn't need to know... unless he or she is hot. ;-) I use, variously, heteroflexible, bisexual heteroromantic [there is some controversy about whether one can or should split things up this way], bisexual (for simplicity), not-straight, bi-curious (a white lie, I'm beyond that), all of the above, etc.
