So I recently came out as gay and ended my wedding engagement. (yeah I know, there's no drama here) Something I find myself doing a lot is second guessing myself. Like I'm not sure I want to date right now, or I won't be horny right this second, or I won't be attracted to a woman I see. ... And I know it's BS but my brain jumps to "well maybe you're not gay and ruined your future for nothing". Anyone else get these BS insecure thoughts?
I have those thoughts everytime I get the courage to tell my husband I’m gay. It’s really frustrating and makes my head spin. I’ll start analyzing every moment of my life trying to convince myself I’m not. But l know the truth I just can’t explain it away. So sorry you’re having doubts, our minds works against us sometimes * Big Hugs*.
Sounds like you're in a rough spot. I really hope the best for you. And good luck with your life. I'm trying to just be easier on myself, but it's difficult.
@CathyMia thank you I appreciate the kind words. We’re our own worst critic, try to easy on yourself though. Probably took you a while to get the courage to tell your fiancé, so it might take just as long to accept your life now. It’s ok to down sometimes but know you did the right thing, even if you weren’t 100% sure.
Hey, I can relate to this too. I can only speak for myself, but it has gotten better with time as I’ve become more used to thinking of myself as being gay. It is hard though, but you made your choices for a good reason. You wouldn’t have done it if you didn’t believe it was the right thing to do.
I think it’s natural, to have some doubts after making a major decision. But you made your decision for good reasons, and had the decency and courage to stand up and tell your fiancé what’s going on. You should give yourself credit for that. Take care.
best of luck to you. it sounds like youre just having some doubts and those come with making major decisions. be proud of yourself you just took a major step. give yourself time to heal.
