I'm a 24 year old bisexual female and I have feelings for a 19 year old male coworker. This guy is a straight male and I'm not sure if he knows I'm bi. Maybe it doesn't matter. I posted about this once a few months ago, but since then, my feelings and attraction towards him have grown stronger. For the past few years, I've exclusively dated women and I haven't felt romantically/physically attracted to a man in a very long time. So, this feels a little strange to me. I now have a huge crush on this young man and it has really caught me by surprise. I'm confused about whether I should do anything, or if I should just ignore it. Note: my workplace is very relaxed and has no policy against coworkers dating. He's kind, respectful, intelligent, caring, funny and independent (he lives out of home). He's a hard worker, and he also studies full-time. He's one of the most polite and chivalrous men I've ever met, and every single shift we do, I find myself impressed by him. There are many things he does that make me feel he might be interested in me too. He always makes eye contact and smiles when I walk by, helps me with my work without me even asking, casually touches my shoulders/back, and I catch him looking at me sometimes. We're good work buddies, but whenever we talk, he seems a bit nervous and often goes very quiet, yet around others he's always extremely talkative. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel confused and weird, as I've not felt attracted to a guy in so long, but this feels so intense. Also, I'm obviously five years older than him. I've been daydreaming about what it could be like to ask him to the movies or something. Ugh. I'm stuck once again.
1: Yes, it really don't matter if he knows you are Bi. It just matters if you want to make it obvious to him that you like him. (small hints don't tend to work though) 2: Due to how you described how he acts towards you vs. anybody else, he is interested in you in a romantic way - especially if you are the only female he helps without you asking beforehand. 3: 'I feel confused and weird' That's how a crush often feels like. 4: So what if you are older, he's interested in you. Why do you feel stuck again?
Thank you for your helpful answer - I appreciate it! Maybe he actually is interested. I guess I feel stuck again because I have a bad habit of developing crushes on people I work with (and other people I can't "have" like university tutors etc). I'm probably just overthinking my crush on this guy, though. I don't know.
As a former young guy, I say five years is nothing. As a human, I think your feelings are, well, human.
If he's ok with it, take his hand and run for the hills....life is too short, hope it all works out well....you deserve it.
That don't sound like a bad habit I think - more like overthinking on your side. Why not find out&invite him to something he likes but don't use the word 'date?
