First of all, excuse my English, I'm a foreigner So, we have been a couple with my girlfriend for about less than a month & I'm currently dealing with an issue. We usually hang out at my house where I live by myself or chill out there after a night out. Every time I ask her to sleep over, she is always having a lame excuse and declines my offer. Instead, she prefers sleeping at her best friend's house which is about 10 min away from my house. Her excuse is that she has to study with her best friend or she has to go home and sleep early because she has to wake up very early the next day. Yesterday I asked her once again to sleep over but she declined again because I have a flu & she doesn't want to get sick. I told her that this behaviour is offending me & her answer was that I'm illogical. I'm thinking about breaking up with her.. I feel her so distant when it comes to intimacy. What would you advice? Thanks in advance!
Is it possible she’s concerned that sleeping over will imply she’s willing to be more intimate than she’s ready for? You’ve not been together that long.
We already had intimate moments and by this I mean we had sex, which in my opinion is the most intimate act. Why spending the night at my place would be more intimate?
I wasn’t implying that it necessarily was, but I couldn’t tell from your OP. Though, I suppose it is in the sense you’d be sleeping next to each other, getting dressed the next day in the same room, etc. Have you been for a night away together? Have you asked her? Could there be something about your home that bothers her? Pets or distance from work or something?
No, he have never been for a night away together. TBH it really bothers me when she chooses to spend the night at her friend's place over mine. Sometimes I feel like she keeps a distance for a reason that doesn't want to share with me or that she doesn't like me as much as I do. She also doesn't openly communicate with me.. I don't owe any pets neither is there any distance from her workplace. Even if that was the case, she could simply tell me and I would get over it.
The fact that she doesn't feel comfortable with me or when she's at my place, makes me feel at least sad..
It’s understandable that would make you feel sad. To keep asking, might not be helping though. Have you tried to start a conversation on the topic in a neutral place?
