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Are your parents accepting of you

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by i7025, Oct 16, 2018.

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Are your parents accepting of you?

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  1. i7025

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    I've hinted my parents about this, just never been ready to fully come out. But they are accepting of me. I know my mom loves me no matter what, and I think my dad just doesn't care. My mom is really liberal, and my dad's a democrat, but he's pretty moderate. Either way, they seem fine with it, I just haven't yet found the right time to formally announce the fact that I'm gay.
     
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    Not really. They already attempted to disown me over it once and now we're in a weird 'disowning you didn't work so I guess we're stuck with your gayness and will slightly pretend to be ok with it while also constantly trying to get you to be straight again' type of thing.
     
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    It was hard for my parents, but they came around when they saw how I blossomed once I came out. They both adored my husband...
     
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    I was never able to come out to my mom, but my dad is chill with it. it's kind of weird though because he doesn't acknowledge the gay part but he acknowledges my relationship - so he wouldn't bring up gay stuff or lump me in into that category, but he brings up my boyfriend in a general sense and knows that we aren't just friends lol.
     
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    They'll never be PFLAG members and don't really go out of their way to bring it up in conversation, but yes my family is definitely accepting. They love my bf too!
     
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    Thankfully they both are accepting.
    I wouldn’t say they’re supportive though.
     
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    It's more complicated than a yes or no for me. I'm in the closet as far as my father's concerned. I've told my mother, but I'm not sure where she's on the acceptance scale. Some days she's more accepting than others. In some days she gives me the whole 'you'll change your mind and regret it' lecture, in other days she is okay 'whatever it is I decide to do'.
     
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    I have two supportive parents :slight_smile:
     
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    Accepting, yes. I can have boyfriends over and everything is fine. But I think they will never be perfect. I feel like I’d still be more open and comfortable being with a girl around them. But, that may be my own insecurities. I think they’re better than most and as good as they can be.
     
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    My parents are accepting, but they don't really approve of my girlfriend which sucks. Although they aren't trying to stop me from dating her. Just like when I ask for a ride to somewhere to hang out or go on a date with my girlfriend my dad is really reluctant. Idk, maybe once they meet her they will like her. My stepmom is more supportive than my dad, probably cuz her brother is gay. I think she might be telling my dad to be cool with it, cuz he seems like he isn't 100% on board, but he is trying.
     
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    I'm lucky that my immediate family are all accepting of me. I haven't come out to my extended family yet (or been outed as far as I know, with about 1300 miles of separation...) but I have a feeling that the majority would be cool with it :slight_smile:
     
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    I voted "yes" even though I'm not completely certain. I've talked about my sexuality with them and they told me that they don't care who (which gender) I end up with, they just want me to be happy. They then proceeded to each give me a hug and tell me they love me, so guess that counts as acceptance?

    I went to my second Pride festival on the 6th of October and though my dad told me he doesn't accept it (bummer, considering the above), he said that I should go and enjoy myself. I think it's hard for them to truly and fully accept the fact that I'm bisexual, and might bring home a girlfriend someday, but for the most part, I don't really think it bothers them to the extreme of kicking me out. My sister, on the other hand, is NOT accepting AT ALL. She threatened to disown me if I "chose that lifestyle" so she will be a hard nut to crack if, or rather when, I bring a girl home... But I will worry about that when the time comes. For now though, I'm just happy that they're sort-of okay with me going to Pride.
     
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    How was pride ?
     
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    It was AWESOME! I went with my lesbian cousin, her girlfriend, four other lesbians, a gay guy and a straight but open-minded couple. We didn't partake in the march, as we didn't want to lose our seats, but there was enough fabulosity around to entertain us all 9 hours we spent there :grin:
     
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    This sounds so fun! I really want to go to Pride!
     
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    How was it being a bisexual there ?
     
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    My parents are accepting HAVING given them 3 grandchildren first they can't really NOT be accepting...
    I'm 43 on Saturday and my life is finally beginning....
     
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    My parents are very supportive, but it was a very long journey getting there for my dad. I think he has regrets that he was in denial up until I had my surgery. Things are very good now though.
     
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    I voted yes. My mom knows and says whatever I am she'll love me the same it doesn't matter to her. She just worries about my safety. My sister was the first to know and she's awesome so that was a non issue. My dad doesn't know because I don't know how to explain it to him. I'll just let him know who I'm dating. He will be surprised for probably about two seconds and then will probably move on without missing a beat so I am not worried. He just is a very literal guy so seeing it might make more sense to him than trying to explain in the abstract. But my dad is prepared that there is no guarantee either me or my sister are straight. He always talks with the assumption that we'll bring someone home one day, guy or girl. He assumes we're both straight I think, but he won't be bothered that, I at least, am not. In fact he actually seemed to think my sister might be gay rather than me because she's shy and doesn't talk about boys that much. Oh the irony. The daughter who grew up boy crazy is actually not straight and the quiet one who doesn't talk about it much is (so far). But I hope having a non straight sister helps my sister if she ever ends up questioning or finding out she isn't straight.