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Confused about my sexuality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Shtoopid, Oct 14, 2018.

  1. Shtoopid

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    I'm a 22 year old male and I am questioning my sexuality at the moment. I really love gay male porn (especially watching two men make out or frot with each other) and as far as I know it's the only porn that gets me genuinely turned on. I can watch porn with women in it but I don't get turned on at all.

    However, in real life I feel borderline asexual, in that I'm not actually attracted to anybody. No one (male or female) catches my eye. Do you guys know what I am?
     
  2. Lia444

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    Only you can figure out your sexuality but I thought I was asexual and do still feel this way most of the time. However I do seem to feel attraction once I’ve gotten to know someone. This only started happening once I allowed myself to open up and explore liking women. I’ve never felt anything for men. I’m currently exploring this and trying to date women to help me figure things out. As you like gay porn then this could be a starting point but that by itself isn’t enough. Have you thought about being with women and men, do either appeal? Have you tried dating?
     
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    I have fantasized about being with men, just imagining all sorts of romantic scenarios in my head, and I enjoy it far more than fantasizing about being with a woman. However I think I like the idea of being with a man because the thought of me actually being with a man is just all kinds of awkward.

    I've dated women before years ago but the most we ever did was hold hands, I don't think we had ever kissed or made out. The idea of settling down with woman just freaks me out.
     
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    Ok so you sound interested in men so why not try and explore that and she if you feel anything in real life, rather than just in your head? That’s what I’m focusing on at the moment is just meeting gay women and seeing if I feel anything. Hopefully I will meet someone and it will progress further.
     
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