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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by taurus12, Oct 11, 2018.

  1. taurus12

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    Okay im a 19 year old gay guy who realised I liked guys from.12-13 like attraction and sexually i don't feel the same way towards women i don't find the m sexually attractive it just doesn't feel right to me but it's like my brain is playing tricks on me and I'm scared in changing from gay to straight and i keep checking straight porn and see if I have attraction of anything so dose sexuality change overnight or gradually i don't want to change any help?
     
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    Hey there. I just want to make sure I'm understanding this correctly. You say you are attracted to men and now you are worried that you aren't anymore? Is that right? What makes you feel that you are no longer attracted? How do you feel about women? Are you attracted to them?
     
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    im attracted to men im just woirried that it will go away and i will lose attraction.im just so much focused on trying to prove im not straight and dont like owmen i mean i never found them sexually attractive i stil dont i would watch straight porn to test myself like ive seen womens parts they dont turn m on there just meh
     
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    Does Str8 porn turn u on ?
     
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    No I use it to text myself if it does or not
     
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    So you like men and are attracted to them but you don't like women. Buy you are worried you may like women so are watching straight porn to see if you get a reaction. You asked can sexuality change overnight and I don't think it can. Sexuality is a complex thing and though you seem worried you are turning from gay to straight I don't think that can actually happen. Also you stated you aren't attracted to women so why are you worried? Try to focus on what you do like rather than what you are scared you may like. I also don't think porn is an accurate representation of women. If you felt the same way to women you currently feel to men then you are attracted to women. Try not to worry.
     
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    I see. I really wouldn't worry. If you like men, good. And if you do like wwomen too it wouldn't be the end of the world. You obviously are not straight, since you like men, so I really would not worry and put this out of your mind.
     
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    thats the thing im scared im going to lose my feelings and attraction for men and switch to women and lose my gay its like my brain is tricking me
     
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    If you like men then I don't think your brain is tricking you. The mind is powerful, but not that powerful. I don't think you can completely convince yourself to feel something you don't feel. If you like men, you aren't making it up. Your anxiety is making you doubt it. Do you have problems with OCD or anxiety? Because I do and this sounds a lot like that.
     
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    From what you're describing, I hear nothing that remotely would indicate you are anything but gay. Attraction and orientation is pretty much set and doesn't change.

    What sometimes looks like change is people who assume they are straight and come to realize they're gay... which happens not because they have actually changed orientation or attraction, but that society has conditioned them to expect and believe they are straight (because the majority of people are, and because there is stigma about being gay). So it often takes a while for people to realize they are same-sex attracted, and then a while to actually accept and embrace and share that information, in large part because of societal stigma.
    The reverse (assuming one is gay, and later finding out one is straight) pretty much never happens, because the stigma that suppresses natural orientation isn't present in that circumstance.

    So in short... I would not worry about your orientation changing. From what you describe, It sounds like you're gay, and that's pretty much that.
     
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    yeah i do suffer OCD and anxiety always checking asking for reassurance panicking about thoughts
     
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    That sounded like what this was. I suffer from this too on different thoughts. It sucks.
     
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