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I need some help...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by patd1287, Oct 2, 2018.

  1. patd1287

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    I used to think I was gay, because I didn't really feel attraction towards men. Then I thought I was pan, because I realized I really feel the same amount of attraction towards everyone. I realized that means I'm not really attracted to anyone. Now I'm just really confused, and I wanted to know if anyone had tips or anything to help me figure out my sexuality. Please let me know, anything helps.
     
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    Asexuality is the term for not having any sort of sexual feelings. It’s pretty extreme for a person to not be attracted to anyone at all, but it’s possible. If you’re attracted to anyone as long as they’re human, you’re pansexual. Gender-blindness, if you will. Meaning that you can find yourself attracted to anyone across the spectrum regardless of sex or identity. I hope I cleared things up a little.
     
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    Hey I'm sure talking it through with people here can help. Have you ever been in a relationship? It's ok to not be attracted to anyone.
     
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    Well, yes, but it was the kind of relationship where a guy kept asking me out despite me saying no, so I just gave up and said yes. I wouldn't even let him hold my hand or anything, though, so we were really just friends with the titles of a couple. I didn't even feel remotely attracted to him other than as friends. This was a few years ago, though.
     
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    Yeah fair enough, I guess that's not really much use in figuring things out. Do you find that people (men or women) catch your eye or not really?