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I kissed a girl (well, a woman) and i liked it!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Soundofmusic, Sep 26, 2018.

  1. Soundofmusic

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    hey! As many of you might know, I moved to NYC almost six months ago both for work and also to have more freedom and options when it comes to dating women.

    Its been a tough move and though work is great, dating has still been very daunting to me.

    Well, i turned 30 2 weeks ago and decided to challenge myself to go on 30 dates in my 30 years of life. Sunday was my 2nd date in my self-impossed challenge and OMG it was wonderful.

    I think she really liked me (she kept saying so and even tweeted about it later - she doesnt know i saw it haha) and I really liked her. At the end of the night she asked me out again and said we should kiss, so we made out A LOT. And it was soooooo nice. I’d kissed the woman I came out for very briefly but we never ACTUALLY kissed. With this woman I went on a date with, we were all over each other. It was so fun. She also kept playing with my hair and touching my hands and waist and I have to say Ive never had that experience before with anyone and I want more of it.

    Now I cant really stop thinking about her. Shes been texting me, which is nice. Were going out again on Sunday. She wants to do brunch this time so we can spend more of the day together.

    :slight_smile:
     
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    That’s a wonderful, and great idea about the 30 dates wow I would have never thought of that. How did you meet your date? Did y’all have great conversation? Soo happy for you, very positive experience.
     
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    Aww I’m very happy for you. A little jealous as I’ve gone on dates but not really met anyone I’ve clicked with so am still waiting for those experiences. Keep us updated. Easier said than done but try not to get too carried away too quickly. Take your time getting to know each other.
     
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    I met her on a dating app!

    We had SUCH great conversation. Shes so funny. Even if it doesn’t go anywhere, Im so glad the first date was as wonderful as it was.
     
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    Thank you! Yeah, I think getting carried away is what has me most nervous but I also don’t want to live with the fear/hesitation I always live with. Is it so wrong to let go even if Im at risk of getting hurt later on?
     
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    I'm a guy but I'm very pleased and happy for you, how exciting....
     
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    I’m similar in that I’m afraid and hold back etc but I guess when you meet someone you’re really into then it’s all new and exciting etc. I’ve seen a lot go in all guns blazing and then get hurt though, so holding back a little might be best, but then you don’t want regrets. I’m sure you’ll be fine re however you play it.
     
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    I use live this way but got scared of what people would think of me. It’s one of the few things I wish I had back in life, to be able to embrace life. It’s okay to be nervous but I bet you feel so alive right now, enjoy it.*Big Hugs* :slight_smile:
     
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    It's hard to hold back if you really fancy someone. Especially kissing. OMG kissing.
     
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    Yay! I’m so happy for you. Hope it continues to go well.
     
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    Woohoo, that is such amazing news I'm so pleased for you. You have come so far and through so much you deserve some good times. I feel like maybe you are starting to realise you are a great catch haha good luck for round 2.
     
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    I'm so happy for you! You honestly make me feel a little jealous!
     
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    Awwwww! She sounds nice, even if you can't extrapolate to forever. She probably thinks the same of you too. And she (both of you) kept things at, well, a simmer and not a boil-over. Playing with your hair might sound like small potatoes, but it is very romantic. Good signs!

    You might tell her something like "that was the best kiss I ever had." She might blush! Anyway, as somebody who has always been pulling for you, it is welcome good news. " The hills are alive..."
     
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    I would say no. It's never wrong to give something all you have. Enjoy it to the fullest. Don't live in fear of tomorrow.
     
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    This sound like heaven! I'm a very affectionate person so I'd love someone who was touchy feely. I want to hold hands and cuddle and kiss!
     
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    SOOOO we had sex. It was great. But also not any diff than my experience having sex with men. So am I bi? Wtf
     
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    Wow! That's awesome. Go you. I am even more jealous now lol. You can certainly be bi.
     
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    You mean you didn't enjoy it as much as you thought you would?
     
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    Yeah pretty much. I enjoyed giving, which was new for me. But overall the experience wasnt insanely diff than being with men. I felt more comfortable i guess tho
     
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    @Soundofmusic did you expect more fireworks with her. That’s good though that it felt comfortable. Glad your first experience wasn’t bad with time it should get better.