So, a few months ago I made a post in this forum about my relationship with my straight best friend. That's been mostly solved thanks to your support. It's been a roller-coaster of emotions trying to love him in the right amount (aka not too much). But hey, we're getting there. Another topic that was left unsolved was my sexual orientation. I've settled for bisexuality for now. I really just don't care about what others have between the legs - as long as there's attraction, I'm up for it. So what's this topic about anyway? Well, lately I've noticed that I'm feeling really lonely. Don't get me wrong, I love being alone, I really enjoy having time for myself and my stuff. But too much time for myself is slowly turning into something else. I've suffered from depression in the past, and I feel it lurking in the corner. Honestly, I'm not even sure what I want. Love interest? friends? That would definitely help. But as awkward as I am getting to know new people is always a hassle. I'm basically living in a cave. I wake up, do exercise, play videogames, cook, listen music, sleep. Always alone. I'm thinking on getting a job, to start going out for walks, maybe meet someone, I don't know... I'm just lost. So, seriously, what's next? Teach me how to live random people on the internet.
Hi There! I can totally relate to what you're saying. My life these days has been very similar to what you're going through. I have started to identify myself as bisexual only recently. I have a job that I try to focus on most of the time; but apart from that I have been very lonely. It's as if constantly thinking/focusing on my job and sleeping are the 2 best ways that I can escape from the reality that I live in. I barely have any friends and on weekends I stay alone all cooped up in my rented apartment playing PC games. Even though I prefer having alone time for myself, I think I am suffering from depression which I don't want to admit to myself. I have been an introverted person throughout my life - awkward in social situations, struggling to make small talk, meet new people and make friends. I get bored in the office team parties that I am forced to attend. I think a love interest is something I also need in my life to come out of this deep hole that I am living in right now. Never felt this lost before. I completely understand your situation; loneliness can really get to you and start feeling overwhelming. Maybe you have some old friends from school days with whom you can catch up, spend some time, reminisce about childhood days and feel better. You can also start looking for a job, you know, so that it can provide you with at least something to think about and focus on. It's like you have almost narrated the story of my life. I feel for you and I am always there for you, my friend. We can get through this loneliness together. Hopefully there is a brighter and a better future right around the corner.. Stay strong.
Yes you should definitely get a job, go to college, volunteer or find some other daily activity. It doesn't have to be very demanding but just in order to get out of home and interact with someone. Adopting a dog or a cat can help with feeling lonely too. There are pets that are sold but there are also animals in shelters looking for a home. If you were looking for a job, if you aren't in need of money, look for something you would at least somewhat enjoy. I'm saying this because if I were to get a simple job not related to what I study at university, I would definitely prefer to sell in a bookshop than in a clothing shop or gastronomy, for example. Hobby groups are a great way to socialise too - there is something default to talk about and everyone in the group enjoys the subject.
Replying to @Lonely07: Well, at least we now know we're not that alone in how we feel, huh? For all that matters, feel free to contact me. I'm interested in knowing you, we may help each other out of this stupid loneliness vicious cycle. Replying to @emerry: Guess I'll have to force myself out of my comfort zone. Thanks for the recommendations, hobby groups sounds like a nice start. I'll keep searching for a job suitable for a hobo, lol.
It's about making new friends, just left a 20 yr marriage. Yeah I'm lonely some days....but I have joined local LGBT events in my area and feel I'm starting to embrace a new family if friends, one day I will find someone but for now having a few new friends us just amazing.....
Sure Lokime. But how do I contact you? For some reasons I am not able to send you a private message. I am actually new to this forum, so I apologise beforehand if I am getting it wrong.
Well... I don't know. I'm also new on this forum (basically) joined a few months ago but only stayed around for a while. There should be a way to PM hopefully, gonna poke around to see if I can. EDIT: Ok so I found the Private Message thing but for some reason I can't sent private messages to you. It's between the nickname and the alerts tabs.
Okay, can you try it again? I changed my privacy settings to accept conversations from "People you follow only". You can try changing that too..
Okay. Then there's no way that regular members can contact with each other apart from publicly posting on the forum, is that correct?
Hello. The requirements are two weeks of membership and 50 posts on the site, minimum. Here's the link for the application: https://forum.emptyclosets.com/index.php?forms/full-membership-application.95/
I applied for my full membership today!!! Though someone previously said it can take a while for a decision....
