Help with porn addiction.

So some important questions to explore the nature of the behavior.

-- You are watching porn daily. How long are you watching? 15 minutes? an hour? Three hours?

-- Has the amount of time you've spent watching porn (and/or masturbating) increased notably over time? If so, over what time frame, and where did you start in terms of time and frequency, and where are you now?

-- What happens, exactly, if you don't watch porn when you get home? What do you experience?

-- What happens when you masturbate without porn?

-- Are you having multiple masturbation sessions (i.e., multiple ejaculations) over a relatively short period when you get home, or is it more like you come home, masturbate,with oorn and then go do something else?

Answering the above will help characterize what's going on for you.

 

Hey, so here are some thoughts:

-- An hour a day of porn, especially if you are masturbating to ejaculation 3 times, isn't particularly excessive.

-- The easily agitated piece could signal some level of dependency, but it's more likely that your body has gotten used to the calming effect of the neurotransmitters released by orgasm.

-- The fact that you can (and presumably do) masturbate to ejaculation without porn is a definite positive.

-- The fact that the amount of porn you are watching has not drastically increased over time also tends to preclude what would be considered addictive use.

What you are describing isn't actually very far outside the typical range of habits for many people in their teens or early-mid 20s. So basically, unless there are other pieces (you're actively giving up time with others to masturbate or watch porn, or both, on a regular basis; much of your day is spent actively thinking about getting home to masturbate and watch porn; there are other significantly negative impacts in your life from your porn and masturbation habits), what you are describing would not be considered an addiction.

Now... if you aren't happy with the amount of time you're spending watching porn, then one thing you can immediately do is to simply masturbate without porn when you get home. That might be somewhat difficult for a bit; you probably have sensitized your arousal process to expect the visual stimuli, but you can retrain that pretty quickly by just avoiding porn for a couple of weeks.

I am also wondering if there is some level of lingering shame or embarrassment or discomfort about masturbating. If so, that's a separate issue that may be driving your concerns, and might be worth exploring.