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Mixed signals??

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Ameryllis, Sep 23, 2018.

  1. Ameryllis

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    So I have a crush on my lesbian friend who knows I'm gay as well, and we hang out all the time together. We're super close and are both freshers in uni with not a whole lot of other friends yet.

    Anyway, when we first started hanging she would always say "pshh you never look bad" when I would complain about a bad pic, or "you always look good," which is pretty classic friend stuff. She would also sometimes touch my back for a while if I tripped or something but would leave her hand there for a longer while after.

    And once over texting I made a derogatory comment about myself saying I was ugly, and she said "NOOO YOU DEF AREN'T. LIKE TRUST ME"

    But what kind of got me thinking she could like me was when she said she had a thing for irish girls and said that she got really excited when she found out I was irish. Likee why would she get excited??

    Also, I was meeting up with her and her friend once and as soon as I approached them her friend said "so I heard from [her name] that you're really pretty, and she wasn't wrong." And her friend told me more stuff like "[her name] told me that you're in [this program] and this etc." And I was pretty confident after THAT but she randomly brought up to me once that her friend asked if she found anyone at uni cute and that she had said no, and then she asked me if I found anyone cute and I just responded "no" as well because that seemed like a big friendzone sign.

    So help a girl out lol!! Does it sound like she likes me?
     
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    Have you considered asking her how she feels about you?
     
  3. Limiteded

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    I would jokingly insert something about you being her same sex crush and just see what she says
     
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    The thing is I really don't want to ruin the friendship by asking, so if I can sublty find out that would be best! But I have no clue how to do that lol.
     
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    Hmm lol, interesting idea but how would I word this?
     
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    I know what you’re saying. Maybe you can just jokingly throw in something and see how she reacts?
     
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    Oops sorry didn’t mean to repeat
     
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    Hm okay, what kind of joke?
     
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    My gay friend just one time out of blue asked if I had ever thought about being with a guy. It didn’t make me not like him anymore.
     
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    Just directly ask her if she’s close to you she will just say yes or no I would think
     
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    I think this is a good idea.
     
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    Exactly...at that time he had no idea if I had ever entertained the thought of another man. But it did not upset me at all.
     
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    Honestly, if someone asked me this I would not be upset either. I think only someone homophobic would be upset.
     
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    At hat time I was in fact interested in men but did not admit it because I was friends with him but never had been in a situation where I could trust him to keep a secret. A few months lasted i contacted him and opened up.
     
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    The only thing is that I know she is gay. So if I said "have you ever thought about beimg with a girl?" she would be like "yeah, I'm gay lol"
     
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    Do you trust she would keep a secret? If so just tell her you would consider being with her.
     
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    How about staying that YOU would consider being with another girl? That way you'd be clearing up for her you're into girls.
     
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    We're really close tho so I am actually already really out to her ahah! But that is a really good idea!! I'm thinking of maybe bringing up how her friend said "so I heard from [her name] that you're really pretty" and being like "soo about when [your friend] said that you said I was pretty, may I ask how that came up?" kind of subtly lol. But idek. I really appreciate all the advice though :slight_smile:
     
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    What you said sounds fine since you guys are really close. I would keep it casual.