Fantasy

It would only be wrong if you cheated on your wife. Have you talked to her about this?! Some people are open to open relationships.

 

Jake talk to your wife. I talked to my husband and he said possibly with boundaries. I know you want to explore the other part of you. Communication with your wife is key. Wish I talked more when I realized I was sexually, emotionally attracted to my one of my BFF.

 

I think we all have fantasy like this. I think it might be a good idea to talk to your wife first.

 

I have come to the conclusion that for some of us it isn't "right" or "wrong" or "good" or "bad" or even weird -- it just is. It is a part of reality, so acceptance might as well take place. I'm glad for counseling.
You love your wife. My advice: don't hide yourself from her, that messes up trust and connection. As much as I'm disappointed my wife was not responding to my communications as well as I hoped, she knows I love her and I'm honest with her (and I see her trying to process things). Maybe you are not ready to say something yet, but it seems to me you bring it up because you know you'll need to. If you need to process your thoughts first, before talking with her, this is a good place, as is counseling.
My heart goes out to you.

 

I'm noticing lots of parallels. If what I'm sharing helps you feel not so by yourself in this, I'm glad.
EC has been necessary for me to feel not so alone, or "weird". This Late in Life section in particular, since I'm dealing with sexual orientation 40 years later than most folks who processed it back when they were adolescents.
I am finding things do get better, although lots slower than I want.

 

That's a tricky situation. I agree with everyone here when it comes to communication, because a lot of relationships do involve communication. this would definitely be the case here. It depends on where you stand on your relationship. you have to ask yourself why and what is causing yourself to feel these things about it and if you want to commit yourself to it. If things aren't going the way they are or they just feel a bit dragged out, talk to her about it. Let your emotions be heard.

 

Its a reality for a lot of people, but definitely seems hard to bring up with an already existing relationship.

Until then, know that you aren't alone in this feeling. It doesn't mean you love her any less, doesn't mean you are a bad person, and it just means that yes it would be nice to go on a date with a guy!