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I want a gf/bf but...

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by nicolettek, Sep 17, 2018.

  1. nicolettek

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    Everyone in my town is either straight, very much closeted, taken, or simply uninteresting. Meeting people online can be a pain for underage teens and it's a tad scary with the possibility of creeps and stuff, but I'm still open to it. I don't exactly wanna go out on a whole quest for someone to date, yet I don't care if it's serendipitous or not (although I am quite the romantic). I just wanna know other options about meeting people.
     
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    I'm in the same boat. I'm also not 100% comfortable of meeting people online, and I'm a young adult. But I have no idea how to meet girls in particular. Guys are easy enough, I could probably find plenty of straight guys, but girls are tough. I also don't look particularly gay so that doesn't help.
     
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    Lmao same
     
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    Around here, "looking gay" is a liability if you want to date.
     
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    How do you mean? For men or women?
     
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    Either, but obviously, in a macho society, it's more of a liability for men. However, it's seen between women, too.
     
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    Interesting. So you're saying that men are supposed to look more masculine which is seen as "straight", and women to present as more feminine?
     
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    I live in a society where masculine "tops" or feminine lesbians aren't really thought of as homosexual. The "tops" are "straight" as long as they don't do any "gay" stuff (that is, anything other than receiving oral sex and penetrating other men); the women aren't "real lesbians"...

    My experience is, obviously, with men: pretty much everyone is attracted to masculine guys and being effeminate is usually a major turn off to everyone. And God help you if you're effeminate but happen to be a top... you might as well become a monk. It's sad but it's the way it is around here.
     
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    Wow. That's so restricting. That must be really tough.
     
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    I have to admit that I'm a bit turned off by the really effeminate guys; say, there are some guys that are so, so effeminate that they look like a caricature of gay people. That wouldn't be my type. However, my boyfriends haven't exactly been Stallone and Chuck Norris; in particular, my current boyfriend isn't effeminate per se but he's extremely metro, and that's rare among guys here, so people notice that he's probably gay.

    As for myself, I'm not particularly gay-looking, I'm just a nerd (even my friends tell me I look like Sheldon Cooper)