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My first date EVER...

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Altanero, Sep 16, 2018.

  1. Altanero

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    ... and the first time I've been with a man in several years, too!!

    Today it could be the day. I've just moved to another city, I had the need to meet people and live a "gay life", far away from home and on my own... and here I am, talking with a nice guy. And maybe we're going to meet today evening.

    We've been talking since this morning, using an app. And we've found that we may fit in some aspects (what we like, overall). I feel very nervous... He is cute and he seems friendly, but I've never dated anyone, and it's been so long since the last time I've been with a man. If the odds are with me, maybe I'll have to tell them that I feel insecure and, in a lot of aspects, I am a newcomer to the gay world. Should I?
     
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    I guess just go with your gut!
    (It’s ok if you want to say it, but you don’t have to)
    Either way, just try to have fun :grin:
     
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    I don't think there's a right or wrong approach to this. For some people (this would be me), it'd probably be more comfortable to share that it's your first date or that it's been a while since you've been with a man, because that way the other person knows and can adjust their expectations accordingly (ie if they notice your nerves, they know it's because it's your first date, not because it's something that's wrong with them or anything). I would just constantly be worrying. But for other people it works better if they don't tell it and just go with the flow, as it were, and it ends up making no difference in the end. It really depends on what kind of person you are and whether you want him to know. Either way, you don't HAVE to, you don't 'owe' him any explanation or anything - and it's up to you what's most comfortable for you.
     
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    I think if you're comfortable you should tell him. It will ease your nerves and possibly his too. After all, he may not be experienced either. Just have fun I say. :slight_smile:
     
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    I value honesty and vulnerability the most in my life. I refuse to spend time with people who would be annoyed or feel weird if someone said "hey, im nervous because this is my first date with a guy blah blah"

    I think being honest and straight forward allows you to be more present and enjoy your time with each other more. If you feel comfortable, tell him :slight_smile:
     
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    I'll mirror what everyone is saying in that you should be honest with him that you are nervous. If he can't understand that then he may not be worth it.

    The best advice I can think of is to meet somewhere public and just talk to one another. think of it as getting a meal with a friend. It is nothing that scary once it begins. Just be yourself.
     
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    Thank you for your words! You are so kind :slight_smile:

    Finally, we couldn't meet yet... We're talking about next week. So... I feel even more nervous!
     
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    Sending you good luck wishes.....for next week.....some of us here will be expecting an update LOL.....
     
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    Thanks to all of you!

    Maybe we'll meet tonight... We've been talking a lot by WhatsApp, since last September 16 (I think that's a good start!), and he seems funny and charming. I don't know what to do... but I think that I'll only have to relax and enjoy!
     
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    Good luck....
     
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    He has just left my house. It was a good night, yeah... :sunglasses:
     
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    Happy happy happy for you....do you plan to meet again soon....
    Rade
     
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    Yeah, that's the plan! :grin: Thank you!
     
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    Let us all know how the next dates go....it's good to see people happy....