Did you have a sexual experience with a sibling when growing up?

A male cousin and I masturbated each other a little but that’s as close as I got to siblings. I’ve been embarrassed and ashamed of it ever since.

 

Of course he was several years older than me so technically it would be classified as abuse. It doesn’t haunt me but it is embarrassing to think about. I definitely would not call it positive. Players no with a friend a couple of years later, that was positive

 

Yes my twin sister and I played around when we were younger

 

I guess what happened with my sister and I would just be called playing doctor. I showed her mine and she showed me hers. looking, no touching. also, I fooled around a bit with a female cousin that claimed she wanted to marry me. we had a fake ceremony and a "honeymoon" which only consisted of kissing that I recall.

 

I think you and I exchanged messages previously on my experience. I was sexually coerced by my childhood playmate and did not have the confidence nor self esteem to disagree with him. I definitely consider myself to have been victimized by these childhood events even though he never physically forced himself on me, but he definitely came from a position of strength and used it to coerce me to participate. It lasted from when I was around 7 or 8 years old to around when I finally had the courage to tell him to stop when I was about 14 or 15.

As part of my own journey, I needed to reconcile these events and find closure. And I did so by researching and finding him since having embraced my sexuality, reached out to him, and actually got together with him to confront him. When I met him and saw he still was living with his parents in his 40s, had not yet embraced his own sexuality, and was at an unsatisfied place in life, I actually felt sorry for him. I let him ask me questions about my own coming out journey and listened to his struggles. After that meeting, I definitely found closure. I have not spoken or communicated with him since then.

 

My older female cousin molested me. Definitely coerced. I think I was around two when it began, but I’m not entirely sure. I think she was molested too. The EMDR I’m doing has been helping. A friend also molested me at a sleepover— woke up to her penetrating me with her fingers. I was eight. Again, I think she had been abused.

I get really freaked out when people say these sorts of things are positive but then again...

 

I guess kind of with two of them. I don't know if this counts but I have an identical twin brother and when we were like 9 we somehow started wondering if being identical included our dicks so we did a whole comparing and measuring thing to see if they were the same (turned out yes).

The other time I was like 12 and and my adopted sister who's about the same age and I went skinny dipping because we thought it was exciting not wearing clothes outside. We didn't really want to go home yet so were just laying around still nude on the grass near the lake and she started teasing me about girls she thought I had a crush on, when was I going to get a girlfriend etc. and she took it a little too far. I said I didn't know how to tell if I had a crush on a particular girl and she said something like 'well would you like it if she did this?' and pretty much climbed on top of me face to face. We both got really quiet realizing our joke went too far and it wasn't right to be doing that but were kind of too surprised to move either. That was a really long intense moment and not gonna lie, we almost had sex. It was incredibly confusing for me as a young teen with hormones thinking 'she's my sister...but she's adopted...but this is so wrong...but this is nice' all at the same time. We didn't do anything but we were too embarrassed to talk to each other for months.

 

Yes my experience with my cousin was not positive. It wasn’t forced either, but I didn’t know what I was doing. Now the activity I had with a friend when I was 13 was entirely consensual

 

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Anal occurred to us but we couldn’t figure out how to make that work so it just became touching, kissing and oral. Probably for the best. We didn’t know what we were doing

 

I was older and knew what I was doing and wanted to do it. With my cousin I don’t really understand. Doesn’t matter to me what it is called. I’m not scarred by it, but it wasn’t strictly speaking consensual. I rarely think about it to be honest

 

Hormones played a big part. My sister had friends over all the time and some type of play would start. Not abuse at all. As for my sister is was more curious and there was no harm.

 

To be honest, except on this forum, I don’t talk about any of it. It’s a strange icebreaker to most people. “Hi, nice to meet you. By the way I diddled a friend of mine when I was younger”. People look at you weird when you open with that. Maybe I should just stay away from people

 

Me and my brother started off when I was 14 comparing and talking about sex that lead to jerking off and we did eventually have sex. It was playful and nothing was forced. We both enjoy it.