Is it possible to make myself stop having a crush on someone?

Give it time and the intensity will not be as aparent.

For the longest time I found a few coworkers super attractive but found out they were straight; they still work there but they aren’t interested in guys that way. Do I still think about them in a romantic and/or sexual way? Sure do! And I think until they leave (or I leave) this isn’t going to stop. However, I’m more mindful about these thoughts and fantasies when I see them at work, because it gives me a bit of a reality check to realize they will never be interested in me that way.

Cheers!

Your English is also quite good.

 

I find it best to be open about my own sexuality around straight guys.

My straight friends talk about their experiences with women and I accept that part of their lives, and I talk about my experiences with men and they accept that part of my life. And we all trust each other because we've shared intimate details about our sex lives. I can't exactly develop romantic feelings for a guy if I've been casually talking to him about what I get up to with other men.

 

I'm sorry you're having problems with this. Crushing on straight people is honestly the worst, and it can be so much heartache. When I get crushes on people who I'd rather just be friends with, I try this: I can usually find something about my crush that I don't mind in a friend, but couldnt stand in a partner. I focus a lot on that to the point where I couldn't imagine dating that person. Example: I have a friend who is absolutely gorgeous, sweet and funny. She has a wonderful personality and is just perfect, and I had a crush on her for a long time. But she didn't wash her hands! That's a huuuuge pet peeve of mine. So every time I had feelings for her, I'd tell myself "You want to date this beautiful lady? You could never hold her hand, she never washes them!" Eventually it worked! It was kinda silly, but it absolutely worked and I have zero romantic interest in her these days, haha.

Also your English is better than a lot of people I know who grew up speaking English I used to work at a center to help people improve their writing, and your English is better than at least half of the people I tutored who spoke English as a first language. Very impressive, friend!

 

That reminds me of when my high school friend called herself "boy crazy," when she was into guys ALL THE TIME and would rather talk with guys than do school work or pursue her own hobbies or anything. For her, boys were an obsession she needed to get over. I couldn't even keep up with all the boys she was chasing! It sounds like "louis" feels like he wastes a lot of energy on women. That being said, my friend actually came out to be as bi after a while, so louis might not be straight.

 

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I suppose it could translate to promiscuity, but that's not necessarily a bad thing.
My friend is very trust-worthy she's been in quite a few long-term relationships, between all the dating, and is actually getting married in two days!