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Is This Rape

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by AboveAce, Aug 21, 2018.

  1. AboveAce

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    I won't go into detail but basically, i hade my boyfriend over and he started to talk dirty and grabbed my pants and pulled them down i said not today but he continued
     
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you. sadly, the answer is yes. anyone, no matter who they are, is allowed to touch you in a way that goes against your wishes, especially after you've said no. depending how forcefully this was done I'd say you seriously need to think about reporting this to the police immediately.
     
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    Don't you mean no one? Not anyone?
     
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    That certainly classifies at least as assault. Not that you have to answer, but did he go all the way? Then yes, that is rape. If there was no penetration, then it is still sexual assault and needs to be reported. You should call, I'm not sure if this is in Canada or not, but either RAINN or a Canadian hotline like RAINN and they'll discuss your options and what the specific laws are in your area. And it will be confidential, you can even lie about your name and use a fake one if that'll make you more comfortable. They won't file it if you're not ready, they'll just go over the options with you. Not just legal as well, they'll also help you emotionally and give you resources for that as well.

    I wish you all the best! But no one should do anything like that, people should always respect your boundaries, that is not a safe or good person to be around if they push or anything without your consent. And, yes, it can be someone who's a friend or you've known for a long time. A friend of mine was raped by her best friend-turned boyfriend, and they've been friends for years before that. If they don't respect your boundaries, that is 100% never okay; no matter how well you know them or how long you've been friends or married to someone.
     
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    I hadn't actually noticed till you pointed it out, thanks...
     
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    No worries, i wasn't feeling well earlier, i hope i didn't come across as rude or mean about it.
     
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    I agree with the others. When someone says no or stop, it's time to listen.
     
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    It can definitely be considered assault and depending on the circumstances; rape sorry you went through this ordeal ...no means no
     
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    It would fall under rape aswell as assult as he tried to have sex with you without your permission and in most areas of the world that is illegal and he can get thrown in jail for it if you call the police.
     
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    given the topic I'd say that's understandable. don't give it another thought. please, do let us know what you decide to do about this ordeal, if you feel up to it. be well.
     
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    Oh no, i'm not the OP, i just meant when i corrected your post, i hope i didn't come off as rude or condescending is all.
     
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    this is what happens when you post when you're tired. I went right to bed all of 5 minutes after posting that. we're good. :ok_hand: