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Lesbian or bisexual

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Wacky Zoe, Jul 20, 2018.

  1. Wacky Zoe

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    I've been attracted to guys as long as I can remember but now I started to notice women in a different way. I decided to watch lesbian porn and movies to see if they turn me on and they definitely turn me on. All of sudden, I've been fantasizing about kissing, making out and having sex with women.

    I want to have sex with a woman so badly but I'm wondering if it makes me bisexual or lesbian even though I've never been with a woman ?

    Many straight people know they are straight without having had sex yet, same for gay people, so same for bisexuals and pansexuals so I'm probably bisexual, but slowly coming to terms with it.
     
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    If you have been attracted to guys for as long as you can remember bisexual seems like a more suitable label in my opinion.
     
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    I think the kissing is even more telling than sex.

    Porn isn't the best "test" for orientation, but plain old mind fantasies are. Not to dis porn, it's fun too.

    I think you just self-diagnosed. It's tough because to a lot of people, bi isn't even a category. Even if they're homophobic they'd rather you be gay than bi, because, you know, "pick a side." But good luck, there's probably a girl right now looking for someone like you.
     
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    I agree with what the others here have said. If you’re noticing that you’re attracted to women as well as men, then it sounds like you’re on track with what you’re saying about probably being bi. Then again, I don’t know you or your situation as well as you do.

    You don’t need to have been with women to know that you’re attracted to them. Sexual orientation is based on attraction, not who you’ve had sex with or dated. Take as much time as you need to figure things out and best wishes to you!
     
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    Same problem happened with me
     
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    I think if you have previously or still do have attraction to men then bisexual probably fits best but really it's about what feels most right to you. Nobody can tell you what you are or aren't or what you do or don't feel. Labels really aren't the be all and end all but I know for most of our minds they are important. I think the best you can do is go with what feels most right at this moment, if in a couple of years time you think something else would fit better then you can always chance from bi to lesbian etc.