hi! Last weekend at Pride I met someone. She’s so interesting and cool and beautiful. Has the most stunning eyes Ive ever seen. Her friend and I had been chatting all night and when she got to the party she sat with us and it was just the three of us in our own little corner. I couldn’t stop looking at her. When they left, her friend said I should give them both my numbers, and I did. Her friend contacted me but she hasn’t. I know, I know, why haven’t I contacted her? I’m being such a coward about this but there’s something really holding me back. Im sure its fear. But I can’t even fathom a scenario where I’ll be contacting her and yet I can’t stop thinking about her. I really hope she liked me. I felt like we had some intense eye contact going on. But Im also terribly afraid Im just not her type. Just ranting.
Are you on the east coast yet? I forget, NYC or Philly?? You should contact the chick that asked to exchange numbers and ask to hang out. You'll be bound to run into the other again if you get friendly with the other. Say you need some queer ladies hang out time and go from there! (maybe don't say that exact thing, but you know...)
Yes, Im in NYC! Thats a good idea. I dont know if they’re super close, but at least id make a friend out of it haha.
I'm on the other side of the bridge from you! And should be for quite awhile now...maybe I'll end up back in the city someday. Who knows! Maybe we'll bump into each other and not know it. lol. How'd you like the fireworks? My view was like....I could see a billion fireworks going on in the city, lol. Anyways...that's a good idea. This way, you'll have that girl as your friend, probably get more queer friends, and be around queer peeps all the time if possible. Just, uh...try not to run into my trigger crush. She may still be there, and you know how she is...lol.
I would text her and invite her to an event you know she will enjoy (based on things you have talked about during your night out together).
Thats the thing... even the idea of texting her terrifies me. I dont understand why Im so scared of putting myself out there.
Oh wow thats great youre back in NJ! I didnt see any fireworks. Had to work from home and didnt have anyone to watch with so i stayed home. Hahah hopefully wont run into her!
What is the worst that could happen? She might say she is too busy or isn't into you? Best case scenario though SHE IS into you and you don't let your fear get in the way of what could be a great story. In other words, you have nothing to lose. (And I talk as someone who has been rejected quite a few times in the recent past but have absolutely no regrets as knowing is MUCH better than trying to figuring out signs and second guessing and I have personally got amazing friendships out of all those situations so definitely didn't lose anything by letting my feelings known/questioning theirs. ) Good luck and hope it works out!
I agree with Linning, go for it!!! Gather your courage and text her. The worst that will happen is she’ll say no. But if you don’t ask, that’s also a no. So you’re currently in the worst spot and things can only stay the same or get better if you ask. You can do it!!!!
Personally I think this is the best option. If her friend has already contacted you then you know you have the basis for something to come out of it. Be brave and send that text!
