If you had to label my sexuality, what would it be?

I came out as bi when I was 16. I felt pretty good about it then. But I had limited experience in general. I had only been in one relationship (with a girl), and had no same sex experiences at all. Overall, my luck with women has been piss poor to this day so when I came to college I decided to focus more on being with men, and through certain apps, made a few steady FWBs. I’ve had a lot of fun, but I would occasionally take a hiatus from the gay hookup scene and try to find something serious, preferably with a woman. I’ve always found them more attractive. For instance, there are women out there I find so beautiful that their mere appearance is enough to make me emotional. I haven’t met any guys like that yet. My attraction to men is mostly sexual.

Plus, given that I’m the only one in my family who can continue the bloodline, I really want biological kids, so that’s enough to make me crave a long term relationship with a woman. That being said, if having kids was either out of the question, or not a possibility due to a medical issue, I suppose a long term thing with a man would sound better, but like I said, there are very few men I find truly attractive. I’m picky I suppose. Hell, most of the guys I hook up with don’t meet that standard, I just find them attractive enough.

Hell, one time recently I went on a date with a woman I’d been friends with for awhile and we ended up just making out and cuddling in my room. It was amazing, granted things didn’t work out down the road. A few weeks later I got together with a male booty buddy, and to be frank, something about it felt kinda gross. Maybe that experience prior made me realize I’m straighter than I thought? I’ve been through kind of a dry spell recently but I’m thinking of romantic stuff isn’t feasible soon I might go back to the hookup thing.

TLDR: So I’m 21 now (and a guy in case you didn’t notice), and I’ve had five years to ponder it but now I’m seriouskh confused. Am I actually straight? Am I still bi? Maybe heteroromantic? I’ve romantically only been with women, and sexually only with men. But for long term, I lean towards women by far, but I suppose the right guy could come along but those odds seem so slim.

 

Thanks a lot for the input. I always assumed you had to be attracted the same way to both sexes, even if you like more of one. I’ve thought maybe I’m bi curious, and my experiences with men were a phase but it’s lasted quite a bit, and I’ve really bonded with a few of the guys. Not to the point of dating, but enough of a bond to cuddle afterwards and talk. But like I said, I crave women a bit more, especially as of late. So maybe my attraction to men is just sexual and when I do have sex with a woman it may make me lose interest in men, but I don’t know.