outed to a family member

I've been outed to my older brother. I don't know by who. I don't know what to do next. I don't know if I will be able to remain at home. I have nowhere to go and no one will hire me for even entry-level position jobs. Is there any way I can make light of this situation or get out of it?

 

Yes, he has. And no, he won't. And furthermore, I'm not ok with him knowing. I've been counting down the days until he graduates college and is out of the house so that I will be safe. I'm verbally and emotionally abused at home by him already, and this is just going to make everything so, so much worse.
He hasn't up-front asked yet. He knows I'm asexual, but that's just the tip of the iceberg. Someone told him about the long-term relationship that I was in, and if I don't find a way to cover it up, I may not have a place to live anymore.

 

I guess. For the time being, I'm holing up in my room and hiding food in there so that I don't have to leave my room as much. I'm going to be applying for what jobs I can online, writing scholarship essays, and doing a good spring cleaning to try to appear to be a model child. The less he sees me, the safer I will be. I just don't know how I'm going to get through the whole summer.

 

I'm not a minor, so yeah, they could.
And, my parents are negative. They're less negative, but they're still negative, but my brother alone is enough to make the living environment hostile. I don't really know what their reaction would be, but at this point I'm not telling any of them my sexuality without telling them that I'm trans, and that's an issue that frankly, they'd react terribly to.
I can't look for LGBT support in the area. I'm not allowed to leave the house without telling someone where I am and how long I'll be gone. There's honestly no point in trying to get help in my hometown, but I don't know if I can get through the whole summer with my family to get help in the city I go to college in.

 

My parents don't threaten me, I just know it's best to follow their rules to avoid making more conflict than there needs to be. The food thing is because my parents tried so hard to not give me an eating disorder that they ended up giving me an eating disorder, and now I'm not comfortable eating around them. It's also so that I don't have to see my brother. I only live in Troy during the school year, and while I do plan on seeing a therapist very close to my campus in the fall, I really need to focus on how to even make it to fall. I go to a private school, and my education is very expensive. I cannot afford to take on $13k of debt every year, so yes, I need to stay on good terms with my family or I will not be able to go. If I come out to them, we will no longer be on good terms. My parents do not monitor my computer usage, but they do monitor all of my daily activity, so I cannot meet with any groups. I can barely meet with friends while still being allowed to keep a word of the conversation that went on private.

 

I hope so, but it's hard to even be allowed to leave the house alone sometimes.

 

I've been applying for jobs for about a month, and haven't heard back from anywhere yet. I can't take classes over the summer, because I did not apply to take any, and I don't attend college in my home town. My brother seems to refuse to believe me. I'm currently just trying to stay out of his way and take it one day at a time, avoiding suspicion as best as I can.

 

I do live with my parents, but they're much less likely to pry into my life. I can't seek out an lgbt group in person, because I'm not really allowed to leave the house. I left the house for a 20-minute walk the other day and got scolded for it.

 

I don't really have that many friends because I was in a pretty abusive relationship where I was accused of cheating on my partner with all of my friends, so generally, I cut off ties with the people I was close with over the years. I posted on one of my private social media accounts that I'm worried about not being able to live at home anymore, and they said I could live with them if I really needed to.
I am in my teens, and I'm a college student. I have to do everything I'm expected to (such as staying indoors and being cis and straight) until I graduate, or else I risk not being able to attend the school I'm at anymore.

 

I'd like to go at some point, but Albany's not really that close to Troy if you don't have a car, which I don't. I don't live there during the summer, I live with my family, but I do not have access to any in-person resources for LGBT+ people in my home town because I am unable to leave the house.