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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Dodds, Mar 2, 2018.

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  1. silverhalo

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    Would you consider getting some?
     
    #241 silverhalo, Jun 11, 2018
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    Yeah but how do u go bout it ?
     
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    R thank you I appriacte that
     
    #244 Dodds, Jun 12, 2018
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    Have you looked at anything like that before?
     
    #245 silverhalo, Jun 12, 2018
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    No
     
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    Cool let me know what you think.
     
    #247 silverhalo, Jun 13, 2018
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    No i havent
     
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    Hi guys does any1 else feel alone I feel apart from this site I have no1
     
    #249 Dodds, Jun 13, 2018
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    Please remember you are not alone. I know it feels that way. The need for connection and being understood is a strong one. When we see ourselves as different than the norm we fear rejection, loss of connection and belonging.

    I have felt alone many times in my life even though I have been and am surrounded by people who love me. I didn’t know how to talk about how I was feeling or ask for what I wanted let alone what I needed. All those feelings bottled up, fearing what people would think. So I withdrew. When pressed I would suppress and eventually explode. I have come a long way and it hasn’t been easy but so worth it.

    Brene Brown’s research has shed light on connection and belonging. You could start with her Ted Talks. I highly recommend her book The Gifts of Imperfection.

    So let’s turn the focus on getting to know you better.

    What is your favorite feel good movie?
    Mine is Pleasantville with Joan Allen, William H Macy, Reece Witherspoon, and Tobey Maguire.
    Though it is a hetero normative movie the emotion and theme of self discovery and are very relatable.
     
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    Hi guys its been a few weeks but i just need to talk .now please dont jump to conclusions amd think the worst but last night my husband starting feeling me up clearly wanted sex i said i can't be bothered but he continued so i tried to go wit it. It was horrible so awkward and not any way enjoyable :frowning2:
     
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    Aw, I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. That’s really tough. Does he know you’re depressed?
     
    #252 Really, Jun 24, 2018
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    I'm sorry. I've been in the same situation. Has your husband done this before? Do you feel he would stop if you insisted?

    With my partner, I feel he would stop if I was explicit, but it feels either to go along with it than deal with a discussion around why I'm not interested in sex. It's like torture though. Can you relate to any of that?
     
    #253 LostInDaydreams, Jun 24, 2018
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    Yeah i think he would stop if i was to say no and mean it. Yes that's how i feel
     
    #254 Dodds, Jun 25, 2018
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    I'm sorry. It's a horrible feeling. Are you feeling any better today?

    My last post should say "easier" not "either". Sorry, only just noticed.
     
    #255 LostInDaydreams, Jun 25, 2018
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    I can relate. The last few times I had sex with my husband I felt awful about it. The last time, I had tears running down my face during sex and he didn't notice. That was it for me. I realized I had to have the conversation with him because I couldn't do it anymore. It was too painful. I've been faking it for years and I just can't do it anymore. Since telling him I am attracted to women and don't enjoy sex, he hasn't initiated it again. I'm in a better place. It sounds like you're getting to the point that you're going to need to take some action for your own wellbeing. It's not easy.
     
    #256 SoulSearch, Jun 25, 2018
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    Sounds like this is what you need to do Dodds, things may be rough if he takes it hard, but it's one of those 'it's not you it's me' scenarios.

    Good luck whatever you do
     
    #257 CuriousG74, Jun 26, 2018
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    Hey @Dodds how are you ? Are things getting better ?
     
    #258 CuriousG74, Jul 6, 2018
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    Things are just the same im to scared to talk to him about how i feel
     
    #259 Dodds, Jul 7, 2018
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    Maybe start dropping hints about your feelings, just a thought
     
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