are you in the closet or out the closet

Out to everyone for 25 years.

 

Out to one friend as trans. Out to ~5 friends and my dad as bi. Wish it could be everyone but what can ya do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

I guess the best way to describe me is that the door is wide open but I haven't walked out of the closet. Most people in my personal life assume I'm LGBTQ+ and I don't really hide it but not many people have actually asked me. There are times I would not want to mention my sexual orientation due to fear of discrimination (I live in the Bible Belt). I also don't mention it at work, because while we do have an anti-discrimination policy, I don't want people to just label me as "that gay guy", because there me more to me than my sexual and romantic orientation.

So, it's kind of complicated. I guess I'm "out" in the sense that I don't try to hide my orientation but not really in the sense that I haven't told everyone "officially".

 

I'm out to friends and family but not to all my coworkers (Out to one or two). The others are blissfully ignorant, and I prefer it that way. I just feel like it's none of their business who I want to date.

 

I'm out to pretty much everyone but my family. All my friends know, my boyfriend, my teachers most likely have an inkling that I'm LGBT+ in some way. I won't hide it if they ask. But my family, ohh no. I am not out to them.

 

Out unless it would not be a good idea for someone to learn about it. Pretty sure one of my former professors hates me because of it now and I'll most likely have to take another of his classes eventually so that'll be awkward and I'd prefer to not have a repeat of that with other school staff members.

 

Mixed. Family has enough evidence and this topic doesn't phase or interest them. I've gotten some uncalled for and snide remarks. Friends - some know where I stand and some don't. Therapist knows. I don't think it's about not being genuine. It's more about how much some people need to know. Some of these friends who aren't as informed aren't as close to me or have drifted off over the years.

 

I wouldn't say I'm really out to everyone, but I wouldn't say I'm closeted either. Some people know, but I don't feel it to be an obligation to let everyone know. If the topic of dating/sex comes up, I tell them. Otherwise, I don't feel obligated to let everyone know.

 

I'm out to almost everyone, although it's awkward because I "pass" for straight, so people always make that assumption unless I make a blatant comment about "my ex-girlfriend" or "the girl I'm seeing" or something like that. I get tired of having to "come out" over and over again, but not enough to completely overhaul my style because of it.

I'm not fully out at work, although some of my coworkers probably got an inkling when they were looking for titles for LGBT+ staff picks (I'm a librarian) and I had a list of lesbian books as long as my arm, along with strong caveats about how accurate each book was. Truth be told, I don't care if my coworkers know, but I don't want it to become common knowledge among patrons. We're an urban library and have a big problem with creepers and stalkers getting obsessed with staff members, and I'd rather not get a whole new subset of creepy guys lurking around the desk or making gross comments. Or even a well-meaning patron asking for me by yelling "Hey, is that lesbian girl here today? She helped me with my computer last week!" halfway across the library.

 

I want to come out I really do just how and when

 

Technically out. However, I'm a pretty private person in general, so the topic never actually "comes out" in casual conversation with acquaintances.

 

out to my mam, one sister not come out to other two sisters but been told by one out to they know so wont be surprised, two brothers don’t know and my father doesn't know, rest of family don't know and friends don't know. At art group they all know I came out in the group to them and I go to mental health group for LGBT people well They know lol.

 

I'm a mixture of both. I'm out to my friends and I'm comfortable with others knowing, but my family has no idea and I have no plans on telling them until I am at least 19 or 20.

 

Mostly in the closet with my family, out to the general public.

 

My friends and family know. As for other people, if the subject isn't brought up, then I won't say anything. I once spent a year and a half at a job, and they never found out that I'm Gay.

 

Out to my parents, a few other family members, my therapist, and some friends. In the closet to my mentor but hoping to change that. Staying in the closet for my grandfather (I don't think he'd understand), my doctors (they are very religious), and my case manager (also very religious).

 

I've been out of the closet for a long time. For me, it's simply so obvious that it's impossible to hide. In a way, that's kind of freeing, but it has downsides as well.

 

My sisters know, and a couple people at my college. Four or five total. My closet is very cozy.

 

Pretty sure I am out of the closet. I wore my Pride volunteer shirt from last year at work on Friday. I have had a picture of Danica Patrick hanging in my cubicle for months now. Family and friends closest to me know. It isn’t a secret. I think being out of the closet has more to do with yourself than others.