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Which is more important for you? Loyalty or faithfulness?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by azzi, Jun 4, 2018.

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Which one is more important for you?

  1. Loyalty

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  2. Faithfulness

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  1. azzi

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    With regards to romantic relationship, which one is more important for you? Loyalty or faithfulness?
     
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    Before I answer this, what exactly is the difference between faithfulness and loyalty here? Normally I would think they go hand-in-hand as being To me, faithfulness would mean things like not cheating and not purposefully doing things that could harm either your partner or your relationship in general. Loyalty would essentially also mean the same thing, not cheating or not going against things that you and your partner established in your relationship.
     
  3. azzi

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    Hmmm... for me faithfulness is being true and not cheating while loyalty is regardless of being truthful or not, that person will stand by you no matter what.
     
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    I think the two go hand-in-hand because without loyalty, there won't be faithfulness, and loyalty is a part of being faithful. Also - and this is just my opinion - loyalty means that your partner will defend your name, even in your absence. If they care enough not to cheat, surely they will also be loyal to you in every other aspect. Just my 2c
     
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    Loyalty and Faithfulness are synonyms. They're basically the same.
     
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    I agree with Kyrielles. They're synonymous.

    If someone is unfaithful and sleeping around then they're not exactly being loyal and vice versa .
     
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    Already been said, but those two words mean more or less the same thing. :confused: I'd say either way it's important to a relationship.
     
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    Based off of these definitions, I voted faithful.
     
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    But to me they are the same. So that's why I was confused as to which one to pick.
     
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    To me, they are basically the same thing, with faithfulness being more specific. You can't be loyal to your partner while also cheating on them. That's false loyalty.
     
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    Yeah they could go hand in hand, but which is MORE important. And you're right too, they are synonyms, similar but not to the fullest meaning of the word. One can stay faithful in a relationship, just you and only you, once you've broken up for reasons not involving a 3rd party, then that could be it. But she stayed faithful with you. With Loyalty, for example, one can still fall for other people while already in a relationship, got tempted and allowed temptation to overcome her, but still goes back and stays with that one person she is loyal to. Yes she wasn't faithful as she have fooled around, but she stayed with you.

    Or in basketball, you have a favorite basketball team. You're a die-hard fan. You're faithful to that team and only suports that team. With loyalty, let's say your team starts losing and didnt make it to the playoffs, you start rooting for other teams as your team is not playing anymore anyway for that season. But it doesnt change the fact that you're favorite team is still the one for you. You're loyal to that team.
     
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    In that case faithfulness for sure. Because to me the person isn't truly loyal if that weren't faithful. Cheating is a betrayal and wrong. I would feel whoever did that is neither loyal nor faithful.
     
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    They are cohesive!
    One can’t be loyal and unfaithful at the same time. A cheater who betrays a person is never loyal to the person they betray, but the opposite as it is the very definition of a disloyal act. A person unfaithful in a relationship is always disloyal, dishonest, undisciplined, spineless, not trustworthy and a traitor. They break the bond, the unwritten contract and the complete trust a functional monogamous committed relationship is based upon and destroy it completely!

    I value loyalty a lot and loyalty which includes faithfulness is a foundation and fundamental requirement I have for a partner in a committed relationship.
    I have zero tolerance for betrayal, unfaithfulness and disloyalty and if someone were to betray me all feelings I might have had before and all respect for that man would vanish completely immediately. And I not only would look down on that man and throw him out of my life instantly but also be disgusted by this entire person. I have no space for traitors in my life, not as friends nor as a partner as they are much worse than enemies. I’d rather stay alone than wasting time on someone unfaithful and fraudulent.
     
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    Both. Though I agree with others that the two are essentially the same.
     
  15. azzi

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    I agree that they are both important and it will be so nice to have a partner who will have both attributes. I'm amazed with each of our perception on this subject. Thank you guys for your comments :slight_smile:

    Sometimes, we don't get so lucky in life and as humans, we make mistakes. We dont intend to, but it happens. Anyway, here is a link discussing more of the difference of the terms if ever anybody would be interested:
    https://www.difference.wiki/faithful-vs-loyal/