Sit her down, reassure her it's nothing she has to worry about and just tell her. Or if you're awkward about talking to her, write a letter. Start by telling her what it is then talk about how you came to the conclusion and ask her how she feels about that and ask if that changes anything or not. Be clear and concise. You can do it
I told my wife at the beginning of our relationship that I had fooled around and experimented with guys occasionally in the past. I've also told her on 2 or 3 separate occasions that I'm bisexual, so she knows. Unfortunately, she is a very typical straight woman who thinks that I have chosen my sexuality by being with her and am therefore now straight, thereby brushing the whole issue under the carpet and nailing that carpet down by occasionally making homophobic comments about people on TV or in the news. But I have known other guys to tell their wives that they have a secret involving same sex feelings when they were much younger, and that those feelings recently resurfaced again for no obvious reason...and that they thought about it and made them realize that they are probably bisexual. I guess it all depends on your relationship with your wife, how easy going she is, how comfortable she is about the strength of your marriage together, and how open and accepting she is of LGBT issues and people.
Hi jakebusman I have just come out to my wife recently after 30yrs of marriage I just sat her down And reasured her it was north g to do with her but I'm gay it went better than expected . So good luck
any news jake? have you told her? i will say since telling my husband we have had many conversations, not all of them were good, but they have definitely brought us to a better place in our relationship and as people in general. hope all is well!
I didn't mean you shouldn't come out to her, you absolutely should, and be honest with yourself too. I meant if you are in a committed relationship then you shouldn't cheat with either a man or a woman, there is no difference, cheating is cheating.
