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Further figuring out my sexuality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by kbugg2911, May 27, 2018.

  1. kbugg2911

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    Ok, so after struggling to accept my sexuality for like 5 years, I finally okay with the fact I am into other girls. I even came out to a close friend and my therapist. I told them that I was gay, but in actuality I don’t know what to label myself. I guess I’m still confused because I cannot say for sure if I don’t like boys (I’m really inexperienced). To summarize, I am not sure if I am bi or not.
     
  2. SoulSearch

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    Labels have been hard for me too. Does it matter whether you are lesbian or bi? I've settled on thinking of myself as a lesbian, though I'm fairly certain I'm bi. Lately, I'm into women and men don't appeal to me at all though. Who's to say what I'll feel in the future? I didn't expect to fall for a woman.
     
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    Labels are super hard to figure out, and it can be so stressful and exhausting trying to find one you're comfortable with. When i was first coming to understand my own sexuality, i thought a label was what i needed to keep myself sane - once i figured out what to call myself i would be fine- no, not at all and i stressed so much over trying to figure it out that i couldn't focus on anything else.
    Don't let it consume you but don't be afraid to not figure it out overnight or even at all. As cliche as it sounds - you dont need to label yourself, it can put a lot more pressure on yourself than you need. I am still trying to figure out what to call myself, but i am confident that i will find one that suits one day even if it is not right now.
    Hope this helps :two_hearts:
     
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    our situations are identical! i think im only into women but im not sure! im rarely into dudes but i cant tell if im not into them or i am? i keep flopping between everything. for the most part ive found id be more likely to have casual sex or smth with another girl! i never understood casual relationships when i thought i was straight so maybe think abt that?