Hi guys I have not been on ec for a while as I needed to take in the the information I of you guys and get it straight in my head so I could work out how to tell my wife that I was gay. Just last week I sat her down and I sat right next to her and I said I have something I need to tell you and get this off my chest I have been carrying this secret around for a long time know and it is about time you new the truth . She replied what truth ,, I said that I'm gay .there was silence for a minute then came the anger as you can proberly amagain I was called all sorts of names But after a while it calmed down and we spoke with a bit more understanding We are going to try and work through it as we have been married for 32yrs To cut the story short for know we are in separate beds to give her space. But it felt so good to get it all out in the open I feel so good as if the burden has been lifted I also told my two daughters They were sad for mum but ok about it Which was great Know the family soon So Thnx for helping me to get there guys
Markie64.....I know just how difficult it can be to tell your wife that the person she has known all these years is not who you really are. I came out to my wife about a year and a half after I accepted that I am and always have been gay. You don't say whether you want to stay together or if you feel that separating would be best. So I'll just wish you the very best in working through this and in being a good father to your daughters. However things work out, getting rid of that secret is the first step on the path to a life of freedom from the bondage that keeping that secret caused. Keep us updated here on empty closets. We do care and want to help! .....David
Next month will be two years since I came out to my wife and children after 20 years of marriage. Stay strong, it does get better, but it will take time. Feel free to message me on my profile if you want to talk one-on-one.
I can only imagine how diffficult it must have been for you. Well done and stay strong. I haven't been in your shoes but am sure you will feel a lot lighter and happier.
I recently told my husband, so I have an idea of how you're feeling. Relief, but also a lot to work through. Hope the next days continue to bring you relief.
Hi David The answer to your question is yes I would like us to stay together it's a long time married to just throw away . I have put that to the wife . But with all the soul searching she has got to do and all the questions that are in her head right know I guess it all up to the wife right know and I would not blame her if she did throw me out . And yes will keep you posted on development Mark
Th Thnx I'm gay I know it will take time . And I will message you on profile if need to Thnx again Mark