Married and Bi

My wife knows, but isn't exactly thrilled with it. It is a little frustrating some times, because while they make toys for such arrangements... She is not a fan of toys.

 

I didn't even go there with my wife. Partly, because the mechanics of same sex is not that important to me. What we did to share was to check out a hot guy (usually on a bike ride as we are avid cyclists and live in a town of hot guys). Then we would talk about the guy and she would describe his body as we fooled around. So, it was not switching roles really. It was more a way to share and it gave her an understanding that I could desire a man in a way not all that different than she did. So, it would go more like..."would you like it if he did this to you?" sort of stuff.

We grew tired of these games pretty quickly. We still like to guy watch together and pick the one we would each go home with. That's a fun game. But, mostly when I am being intimate with my wife we want to be there for each other.

 

Yeah. My wife doesn’t know, but I tried to get her interested in toys, she wouldn’t go for it

 

If you know you are a bi and your wife/husband knows and is supportive - that's cool. If she/he don't know, then you probably should know what will be the reaction. Significantly depends on your second half. I am pretty well sure, for example, that for my wife this can be frustrating and she wan't know how to react. I think sometimes there are things you need to keep from those you love if you really love them.

If for any reason you need to hide your bi-part, that's really difficult. If your bi-part is satisfied with just porn watching, some chat discussions and online flirting - this probably won't make any hurt. But what if it is not satisfied and you want some physical contact? That's the real hurting point at least for me. I afraid that I am exactly in this situation.

 

That’s what I do