Hi & Bi

Hello, Bisexual woman with a supportive husband here.

Maker and artist, no specific medium, I like to explore it all. My favorite things are road trips, music and nature.

Came out to myself and closest friends a few years back and haven’t had the opportunity to explore. Committed to my partner of many years and the life we have built together. Hopeful that one day I will know the tenderness of a woman’s caress.


Tell me something about you! What brings you here? What music makes you feel things you can’t put into words? Do you create art of any kind?

 

hi quilpine! i like that, i had searched and lurked the web for a few years hoping to find some relatable content. Mostly finding the sites of religious marriage counselors, blogs and articles of broken relationships and finding some not very good statistics on being in a mixed orientation marriage, all while trying to remain optimistic.
i finally found empty closets yesterday, and i had to sign up right away. truly grateful to be here.

i have always been into a variety of music, the grateful dead, 90’s grunge, lumineers, old crow medicine show and recently just started to jam to 80’s pop. the talking heads, queen, david bowie.. so much good stuff!

is there an art sharing topic on any of the forums here? that may be fun!? if you like digital art and have an ipad there is a cool ap called sketches and ou can draw in layers, which i find useful. it is free and with a one time upgrade of $4.99 you get lots of added features.

i like to draw too and doodle on everything. recently got back into painting with gauche (like water color) i like to write, sew, carve stamps, make soap and other body care products and do some metal/silver smithing.

 

hi biguyjosh! thank you for the welcome! i really think so too. nice to meet you here.

 

oh, yes! i would really enjoy an art forum too!
krita and medibang... looking into those. i was just talking with my partner yesterday about wanting either an ipad pro with apple pencil or a wacom (the last time i had a wacom it was 2004 or so i bet they have changed so much!)

when using gauche try not adding any water to the color you want to cover your mistakes. totally opaque and should do the trick!? I tried water color and couldn’t seem to get the flow right, i always curl the paper or turn it into way too many layers and the paper crumbles.

our city now has quite a few how-to work shops popping up at local art supply shops and the line, maybe i’ll try to find one to expand my knowledge of the paint and the techniques!?

if we can figure out how maybe uploading current art we are working on would be fun?

 

Hi CGeekyGirl,
I often hear terms in these cases such as fluid, bu-curious and the like. The best part is that you are young and seem open minded, I figured things out much later in life and looking back I likely knew at your age, I just didn’t know how to relate to it. There weren’t any relatable lesbians or bisexual women in my life or in the media and so I just wasn’t sure of what my feelings meant.

Anyhow, just go with the flow, I like what hmmm23968 said above.. you only need a label when you are ready for one, not for anyone else.

 

Hi kkou! I am sorry to hear of the laws where you are. It must be quite challenging. Here it is legal, people may face job discrimination and/or harm by people who do not agree with alternative lifestyles, but the law is beginning to make changes towards acceptance, sometimes it is two steps forward and one step back with policy changes.

Finding this group has been so wonderful for me already, glad to hear the same from many others! I wish we could change the laws around the globe.

oh, collage is super fun! something i haven’t really done in ages, but really enjoyed. thank you, the profile pic of frida is one of my favorite paintings, i can relate to her so well, her sexuality, gender fluidity and chronic illness and pain. just like her i was in a terrible car accident in my youth and still suffer pain from it daily. she is such an inspiration to carry on and express myself through my art.

may i ask, do you have a certain amount of time you plan to stay in the country you are in, or do you have plans to move?

 

hmmm23968, hey! nice to meet you here, sounds like we have a lot in common.

mmm. the caress of a woman is something that crosses my mind pretty often. i feel very lucky to have a partner who accepts me this way and i am preparing a longer post about that, perhaps to be posted as a blog, did i see that any user can post a blog type post somewhere here? thank you for admiring my commitment, it isn’t always easy.

i comment you for coming out as bi! sometimes i feel so invisible, both in my relationship and with friends in the lgbtqa... community. i feel like bisexual is more of an umbrella term, or maybe i am more sexually fluid.. the choices when making a profile were sort of limited.. but honestly i am just so glad to have a place like this to talk so openly!

do you have a favorite art medium?

can i ask if you live in an area where you felt safe and supported to come out?

 

Oh, I see! Well, sounds like having a few years to grow as a person and artist where you are could be okay? Now that I have a family of my own and a business to run alone time sounds quite lovely, I sneak it in here and there in little bits. A single, simple painting or art project often gets interrupted and can take days to finish

Thank you, the accident was pretty scary.

Yes! Frida is such an inspiration to keep doing what you love, despite any obstacles.