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You ever been caught looking

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by theamos13, May 8, 2018.

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  1. theamos13

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    Before you came out to anyone did you ever get caught by someone you were with checking out a member of the same sex?
     
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    Yep a few times lol just made up some excuse why I was staring at them
     
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    Yeah one time in middle school one of my buddies caught me not so subtly checking him out in the locker room. It was awkward af but afterwards we both acted like nothing happened
     
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    Yes. Happens to all of us.
     
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    As far as I know, nope. I mean, I did, but I don’t think I ever got caught. There was only 1(?) year anyways that I was attracted to any of the guys in my gym class.
     
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    Oh, yes a few times. I tried to be careful, in the 80's you had to be. There were always rumors about me, at least a few have told me that after the fact .
     
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    May have happened, but I don't think so. Before my first coming out I used to be very cautious about things like this. But if it happened, then they didn't let me know about it and probably just acted like nothing happened.
     
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    Yes and on 2 occasions they looked back and smiled. That was the best feeling.
     
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    I went on a date with a gal in college (mid 1990's). Saw the movie Romeo & Juliet with Leonardo Dicaprio. I commented to the gal - damn he's a good looking guy! She looked at me sideways and that was the last date we had.

    He and I are the same age.
     
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    Yes, and I still get caught!
     
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    I want this to happen to me!
     
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    He Was back.in the day......lol still not bad now I guess
     
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    Hahaha this is great! Leo is one sexy beast though.
     
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    Oh, for sure. I used to sit and stare at my friend from across the orchestra, and sometimes I'd catch him staring back. He'd smile whenever he saw me staring at him which made me uncontrollably happy. It's the same way with my current crush, he'll catch me staring, and he'll smile and wave.
     
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    This is so cute!
     
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    I don't remember it happening but chances are, yes I have.
     
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    Aww, thank you!!
     
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    Yes, back when I was young. I don't think the guys noticed, but in one case his friends confronted me (politely, with curiosity, which was really fortunate for me since it was back in the 70's and more dangerous). Another time my best friend brought it up "I notice you look at guys, do you like them?" I admitted to him that I liked people. I don't think anyone notices now, although now that I'm out to my wife about me being attracted to guys (bisexual) she might start looking for it.
     
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    Growing up I got caught looking at one friend. He just grinned and that was as far as it went.
    I have been good as hiding for years. Recently I was out to dinner with a friend who I am out too and our hot waiter came up and it was nice not having to hide that I was checking him out
     
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    I’m constantly mentioning gay sex to my wife but she thinks I’m joking. Don’t think she ever caught he checking a guy out. I check out the butt of nearly every women that goes by but I try to restrain myself with men
     
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