loves me but no longer in love with me?

Aww I'm sorry this is happening to you. That really hurts a lot. I've been through this, both the one who is loving so much and one has who has gone out of love. The good thing about your situation is you can still do something about it. Maybe instead of picking up shifts, maybe you can spend more physical time with her if it's possible? I mean if you really love her, distance shouldnt hinder you from going to her, not if it's only 2 hours away. Heck I would drive 5 hrs away to meet this girl that I like but she doesnt want me haha But seriously, try to win her love back if she meant that much to you. Try to do anything, then after all that, if it didnt work still, then I guess it's time to let go. But you did say that she still loves being with you. You still have a chance. Just do extra effort on showing her, and not just saying it, that you love her. Maybe surprise her sometimes too. Send her something that she likes. Or do some activities that you guys havent tried. Pray too and have faith that you'll get through this. Good luck!

 

OK, this is pretty text book. In my opinion she does love you. You dont go from loving someone or falling for them and then not loving them for no reason. I think you are in a good position (as apposed to me right now) the fact that she calls you, thats great. I think dealing with someone who may have trouble expressing themselves emotionally and how they truly feel can be hard, more so on you because you are more settled and accepting, sometimes people have things beneath the surface they struggle with, but on the surface they can give you a fair bit, like, she is calling you and probably genuinely feels bad. I think she needs more time to... get with the program, or more importantly, get with your program. The distance thing, well, its not like you are located in different countries. Give her a while and tell her one day how rare it is find this kind of thing in our world. I think the worst thing you can do is put pressure on her or from personal experience, I would advise not to push the issue or else you can push her away altogether. However... there needs to be a cut off point too, you cannot go through life with an individual like this, at some point the love part needs to be confirmed. Gay love is harder than straight love, at least thats what I've learned, with our love there is all the acceptance issues and insecurities and comfort zones we have to deal with. I would give her space and time and throughout just be there for her and be fun and carefree, show her that you are not hanging on for dear life, but at some point probably at 15 months I'd bring it up and say ok Im definitely in love with you, how do you feel. If she still not sure, then tell her ok well, Im looking for something deep and I love it to be you but if Im not what you are looking for then.... and leave the rest up to her to give you an answer. I hope this helps a little.

 

For me, the person who says, "I love you, but I'm no longer in love with you", is fickle.

I think it's best to let that person go. I mean, if they insist on being in love then they will keep falling out of love, be it with you or with whomever they are with. If it's with you then you'll always be at that person's behest - at their beck and call.