Not out at school. In all honesty, I don't really know what way to come out at school anyway. It isn't really as if I can just scream "I'm gay" in the locker room. Thanks for your reassuring words and indeed, good luck to us both!
Don't be jealous of me yet, we haven't even done anything, just hanging out and getting to know each other. A lot of calling and texting and a few meet ups, we are going very slow.
The discipline of fitness is worthy, but probably not so much if it's solely about pleasing or attracting others with our appearance. When it's about respecting ourselves, YES! If we ask for tolerance from the culture at large, we should model it within the gay community, where we tolerate and one another as we are. I am the first one who needs to work on this, by the way.
Can we edit our own posts? The last line of my first paragraph should read: " . . tolerate and love one another as we are . . . "
The two things tie in together. You wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't respect/look after themselves, and those who are unfit/overweight fall into that category. I have no shame in admitting that, particularly as I am in the process of losing weight because I care. Now that I am in that position, those who do nothing about their health/weight really frustrate me.
@Markster I see the point your trying to make and can agree with you on most of it. My fitness goals are in part for other people but mainly for me. Summer is coming up and I like being able to go to the beach and take my shirt off without grossing people out lol. And I'm military we are all about being physically fit, it affects my job and promotion eligibility if I'm not.
Glasgow has a good sized gay scene as far as I am aware. No need for London. In fact, from a short google search: https://pinkuk.com/gay-glasgow/ You’re still a bit young for all the pubs etc but that should give you a little hope and something to aim for, eh?
Excuse me? Being overweight doesn't mean your unfit or don't look after yourself. I'm overweight and can out exercise many "skinny" people at the gym and in daily tasks. Just cause we store and losse weight at different weights doesn't mean we should be passed over And if someone is truly happy in thier weight then that's thier choice
Good for you if you are able to exercise well, but different people have different metabolisms and need to watch their eating habits. People in your position are an exception rather than a rule. I recently reached a point in my life where I was unhappy about my body and wanted to lose weight, particularly with the intention to find a future boyfriend. It isn't fair to a future partner or myself to be overweight.
Being gay in Glasgow makes me uncomfortable. I don't get the right vibe from it. As for London, the gay scene isn't the only reason that I want to live there.
When I was young I was too skinny and I hated my body. Went to college and lifted a bunch of weights an bulked up to a normal size. When I turned 30 my lifestyle became less active- at 50 I’m active and trying to drop weight. Throughout it all, I’m the same person- skinny or big. I agree with you looks are somewhat important but I don’t want to be with someone who is overly judgmental either. I am losing weight for me, not because I am trying to hookup. There is that part to look your best, but you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, especially if my book has a few extra pages.
Some people that I have spoken to elsewhere have said that I am too young for a relationship and that most teenage relationships are superficial. I disagree. Would you say that 16 is too young?
No. And so what even if they are superficial? Not all relationships have to be super duper serious and last forever.
Always listen to advice but dont live your life by it. And if you make a small mistake here and there you’ll probably end up being a better more rounded person for it anyway.
I never said i wasn't an exception. And if you want to lose weight good on ya. Don't let anyone stop you. I was challenging you4 statement that all overweight people aren't fit and don't look after themselves. Cause it's simply not true.