Hey guys, was wondering if anyone had any ideas for books that deal with accepting yourself as gay. Thats my biggest issue right now. I know realistically the rest of the world will eventually be okay with it, but I am having serious internal struggles about it that are bringing me down. I know I just need to dig deep and come to terms with reality. I am in therapy but would love a good book to help with this, whether it be a novel, self help book, etc. Also taking any movie suggestions for this, but primarily looking for a good book to help. Thanks fam. -loneboy888
Go see the movie currently in theaters called 'Love, Simon'. The book it was made from is called 'Simon vs. the homo-sapiens agenda' if you prefer reading instead.
Velvet Rage it's really good I listen on my phone on a daily basis !! Someone from EC recommend to me ;!!!
I wanted to suggest Love, Simon too but apart from that I'd say both the book and the movie of call me by your name might be helpfull. Also what really helped me was the 3th season of the norwegian series SKAM. You can watch it without having seen the other seasons, it's really short, and to me it meant the world to see a story like that! Another series that helped me was Ellen Page's travel documentery show 'gaycation'. You see people from all over the world fighting for LGBT+ rights in their countries and it was so inspiring to see. If they can do it, so can I and so can you!
There are hundreds of awesome books on LGBT stuffs, on a free app called Wattpad. I use it and its A-MA-ZING, I'm always looking for cute mushy love stories between to girls and even though they have more books on gay guys, I have read over 2 hundred gay girl books. There are books and guides on how to come out as well and its all digital so u can carry it whereever u go, aslo EVERYTHING IS FREEEEEE. hope this helps
Check out “ call me by your name.” It’s a lovely movie really. It’s also really romantic and it might help you. It’s a good thing that you realize where you stand with yourself and what you need. Books and movies could help you with internal issues however talking about it will help also. Take your time and come to terms with reality. You’re at a good start already as is. What about the internal issues that are bringing you down? If you don’t mind me asking. Keep your head up. =)
I just feel like I am not supposed to be gay. Like its something I cannot admit to myself. I cant seem to accept it. I cant even say it out loud. I just feel like its wrong. Yet for some reason I don't feel like its wrong with anyone else. Just not supposed to be me. any ideas on how to stop this feeling? Thank you.
What you're experiencing is entirely normal. As we go through the acceptance of being gay, we also have to let go of the perception of being straight. In processing any loss, there are stages: denial-anger-bargaining-grief-acceptance, which can take anywhere from minutes to months (sometimes longer), and the stages aren't always sequential. So it sounds like you are probably already pretty far along the process. It basically just takes time because we get so many messages from media, orgnized religion, etc telling us that it's wrong to be gay. Keep talking about the feelings and sharing what's going on for you... that's the best way to work through this.
I recommend The Velvet Rage too, even I got a lot of useful information out of it, and I'm not even a gay man. Call me by your name is a great movie and I think you should definitely watch it if you get the chance, but I think The Velvet Rage will be more helpful.
This was a Netflix suggestion, but it was no longer on Netflix- so I rented it on iTunes. It’s called Boys... description is: A sexually awakening gay teen athlete finds himself in a budding relationship with his mutually attracted relay race teammate
Google “Boys (2014)” and it will appear. It is a Dutch movie. I like this post because it has given some good movie suggestions!!
@21zephyr I really liked "Handsome Devil". I don't know if it's on Netflix where you live but it is in Belgium. Oh and a classic (not on Netflix here in Belgium)! "My Own Private Idaho" with the late River Phoenix.
I know People have already said this but the movie “Love, Simon” or the book it was based off of called Simon vs the Homosapiens’s agenda by Becky Albertelli. I cannot even put into words how much i loved these two. I hate to say it but the movie was as good if not better than the book. They were both amazing. It is most definitely my new favorite movie. I will Say though l, if you read the book or see the movie, make sure to also do whatever you didn’t do. They’re both a little different but just as good.
There's an unofficial handbook for LGBT folk called "This Book is Gay" by Juno Dawson. I haven't read it but you could check it out.
I love musicals, and Billy Elliot (despite not being directly LGBT related) is great for realising it’s ok to be you, and a new one on the west-end in London called ‘Everybody’s Talking about Jamie’ is about a gay teen coming to terms with his true identity - the musics great! Billy Elliot is available to watch online, and the soundtrack and some videos from Jamie are on you tube/Spotify and are very uplifting
