I feel like my friend is a horrible person (bear with me) what should i do?

sounds like this guy connor is very toxic! i would try to establish some distance with him, without confronting him (since he sounds like someone who would try to gaslight you if you confront him). i wish you the best of luck with this

 

Welcome to the horrifying hidden world of abusive homosexual relationships and sister you better believe you are not alone, it is far more common than you might think.
From personal experience I can tell you the more effeminate you are the more likely you will experience it though there are plenty of masculine/masculine partnerships where it goes on too.
Guys think they can avoid it by acting masc. but the truth is the abusers pick up quick on the ones they can manipulate, it's just easier to for them to identify their chosen victims from the pool of exclusively receptive/effeminate partners because by our nature we tend to be just as neutral and non violent as effeminate females.

The abuse usually begins psychologically as you described, playing on any fears you have of being outed, picking at your own internalized homophobia, chipping away at your self worth and adding blocks to your self doubts.
Once they break you down that way and your anger begins to rise these dudes move right into physical torture. Reminding you that you can fight back but it will just hurt more, for you. And hey, you know you like it anyway,,,, right?

 

I'll add, as you found out, the more "in the closet" a person is the more ammunition the abusers have to play with.
He's out and you are in he'll threaten to out you to create fear and make you feel you are a possession he has the total decision on whether to keep or throwaway.
'Don't you DARE express any desire to end the relationship b****. Toys don't throw themselves away, people do.'
This is the objectification you speak of in play.

If you are out and your boyfriend is in, especially if he is bisexual and in a committed same sex relationship though it is also just as possible if you like hooking up with gay guys who are in committed same sex relationships, things can get even more ugly and the ugly can come from both sides.
The out-uncommitted partner can try to bribe the in-committed relationship involved partner to remain in the illicit relationship or the closeted partner can threaten the out partner in all kinds of horrible ways to "Keep this between ourselves, UNDERSTAND!?"

Not much scientific research has been conducted on same sex couple domestic abuse but believe you me it is out there, thriving and just as toxic as the more public hetero abuse and it plays by the same rules.
Be careful "Out There."

 

Tell Tyler you are gay. You have already posted that he is accepting of LGBT people so it shouldn't be an issue. Then GTFO of the mini relationship you have with Connor the gaslighting dick head as he has no leverage over you and if you stay it will just keep getting worse.

 

In my honest opinion, it seems as if Connor is extremely insecure. I might be overreaching with this but... I have a feeling Connor might be closeted and he’s using you as a punching bag.

I know it’s hard to be honest with who you are, but if Connor does out you, it will expose him as the asshole he truly is.

 

Being nice and a push-over are two different things.

Right now, you are not being nice to yourself. You are being quite a dick to yourself by allowing a person to disrespect you in such a way.

Cutting ties off with him is no "being rude". Its having respect for who you are as a person and being able to start being nice to yourself.

Like everyone else above, it is time to either 1) let him out you 2) start coming out to more people faster.

 

I've been in a situation like this with a "friend" (I use the term loosely). I started to have feelings for him after he started making more of a fuss of me and I thought it could be the start of something special. In the end it was all controlling behaviors and he even insulted my crush on him as making him feel disgusted. He was also openly gay to top it all off. In the end I cut him out of my life and he wasted no time in bitching to others about it and made them choose either him or me in his friend group. I'm not sure if he has any friends now, I know he was being deserted gradually. Anyway, if I were you, I'd look at why you think you have a crush on him and also ask yourself is it worth it with all of his negative behaviors.