Adopting a child rather than having a biological one

Lol ya I feel you... I'd actually like to adopt an older child because I feel like they are often forgotten...

 

Yes it can only but do good for them... and I bet we were separated at birth...

 

Cool, you believe in reincarnation?...

 

Oh wow my religion def doesn't believe in that but I don't know how I feel about the subject...

 

I also believe in repentance and doing good but as in according to the Christian faith and I don't worry about taking the chance because I already gave my life to God, so my future is secured- up in heaven that is ...

 

I'd rather adopt a child.
not only there are so many abandoned children around, but also I was born with a genetic disorder and it would be just cruel to pass my mutated genes further. so I'd rather make home for an already existing child who does need it.

 

Oh my gosh I love that but I'm sorry about your genetic disorder though . Yes I too can't fathom bringing more children into this world when there are so many already in need of a loving home...it would be hard for me to have children of my own anyway but even if it wasn't I still wouldn't change my views on adoption ...

 

Absolutely agree. Ideally, according to the statistics, we'd all be the products of non-drinking, genetically diverse, high-income, educated parents with plenty of spare time, who have no physical or mental health issues and who remain happily married throughout their child's youth.

Obviously, we can't all have those things and that's why controversy around number and gender of parents irks me, given it's clearly less important than all those other things on which we'd never judge the right to be parent. Much of the benefit of two parents is that they generally have more secure incomes and stable social lives than single parents and that you have some greater access to your genetic history, whether you need it for medical care or want it for social reasons.

I think one of the most pressing issues with adoption is that you really don't have nearly as much control over the process. The pregnancy and its circumstances aren't always going to be fully clear to you. The adoption process is rarely going to begin with a literally newborn child. The bureaucratic processes aren't necessarily easier than IVF or (where it's legal) commercial or altruistic surrogacy. And there are often high costs involved.

All those things make people feel that there's a benefit to choosing alternatives to adoption - not just because they want to pass on their DNA.