So I'd come out to a number of close friends and family members a few weeks back. I decided to do a semi-targeted Facebook post yesterday in which I came out. Well, this morning, as I kept removing people who couldn't see it, I finally got to the point where I was getting worked up over who could see it and who couldn't... and just made it visible to all friends, which included family I'd not yet come out to. I'm on the verge of ... panic? I don't know. But I felt like I needed to do it.
Yes indeed. All posted reaction has been overwhelmingly positive, even from people I was vaguely worried about, including a Mormon friend (whose "so? You're still awesome!" reaction kind of made me feel badly for not giving her enough credit). Basically, I think I'm worried about the people who are the kind of people I don't agree with on anything anyway. Which is kind of pointless, haha. But it's just a basic fear reaction... It makes me feel like a kid wanting approval from people from room I'm never going to get it anyway. Glad I'm seeing my therapist on Wednesday!
We can't please all people all of the time and we can't agree with each other on everything either. Hell, I don't agree with some of my closest friends on some things -- that's life! Sure, we don't set out to upset or disappoint people, but if that is their reaction, they need to deal with it, because it is their reaction. So far the reaction has been overwhelmingly positive, so hold that at the front of your mind. If somebody does take the huff, they will be in the minority and it sounds like you have more people for you than against you. All of the important people already know anyway. Sounds like you are doing fine really and just need a bit of reassurance.
Hooooly crap, that is a super brave thing to do. I hope the responses continue to be super positive. Way to go, spartafc
Thanks, LostPirate! I think it straddled the line between brave and impulsive... So much so that I was like, oh, did I really do that? Gulp.
I came out on FB in June, coinciding with the anniversary of Pulse. My close friends and family already knew. The reaction I received, like you, was all positive. It's my belief that no one on your friends list would likely comment if they have a problem with you. I did not lose a single friend on FB, but I have seen that some friends have just drifted away. That's ok, they weren't my close friends anyway. It's scary to be so public about this and making yourself so vulnerable. So, well done for having the courage to be real to the people who know you.
