How do you keep who knows and who doesn't organized in your head?

I came out in stages. I basically went from two really good friends knowing, to everybody except family. Mainly because its worse experiencing freedom sometimes but not all the time than it is being completely closeted and not knowing what that freedom is like. But I understand, I've almost told my parents how excited I am for a date so many times lmaoo. All I have to remember is not parents.

Much easier said than done, but you shouldn't let a bad response stop you from continuing to come out.

 

Well, you can always keep an electronic or paper list of everyone you know and mark next to each name an O for Out & an NO for Not Out.
There are plenty of people I associate with in life in which neither my sexuality or personal relationships have ever come into the mix of our interactions and neither has theirs and in these interactions I don't believe either party had any desire to incorporate an, "Oh by the way I'm,,,," into the conversation.

 

Wow that’s a harsh reaction you got. Especially since you’ve known them since middle school. I’m sorry that happened to you.

After I came out to my parents and close friends I decided that other people’s opinions don’t really matter, so now the only reason I’ll come out to someone is if it comes up in conversation.
When I first started coming out I lost two friends. It really hurt at the time but now almost two years later I think I’m a lot better off not having contact with them.

 

Honestly, why avoid it?

Don't you rather spend your energy and time with people who truly love you and respect you? Why spend time trying to please people who will turn on you that easily?

If you aren't ready to keep coming out to new people, then yeah make a sheet and look at it before you talk to people. That sounds exhausting though.

 

Seriously! Forget that “friend” like yesterday’s news.

 

I know what that’s like. I only have 5 people I can call friends and the closest one lives over an hour away, most live 4 hours away and I rarely see them. I’ve always found it hard to make friends and I don’t know why.

I’d rather have less friends though than have people in my life that make it more miserable. Keep toxic people out of your life.

 

Years ago I went through a couple years of not having any friends, so I know what that’s like and it never really left me more than a decade later.

 

Wish I could send you all the best energy. Really sucks that you are having such a tough day.

I will say is that despise what you think, you deserve people that love you and care for you, and you shouldn't settle for any less. It is a struggle to find those people and sometimes its really fucking hard, but you are worth the effort.

For now, you have two options that I can see 1) start making some LGBT friends by volunteering with organizations 2) read brene brown books to learn about vulnerability and the power of it

Really wish I could help more

 

I'm in the process of coming out now myself. Came out to my best friend a month ago, another good friend last week. Hopefully another one on Sunday. This is obviously still in the process lol, and plans change, but the way I think I'm going to go about it it is just tell a few other close friends, keep family in a seperate category, and after that, I don't really care enough to come out to everyone else. It's sort of like a .... I'm sure they'll find out eventually thing, but these people aren't close enough for me to go individually to each and every one. I thought about making a FB post about it just to avoid any awkward situations, but even then, I don't want to overblow it and make it a huge deal to people that quite frankly, aren't worth me making a huge deal about. The list of friends I have told/want to tell in person is probably about... seven people?

Excluding family of course. Still have NO idea how im gonna do that yet, lol

 

It's better to have one good friend than many false friends. That guy you are talking about does not treat you like a friend should. You might consider him a friend, but if your relationship is that easily threatened, then it's not a true, genuine friendship.

 

I'm only out to about 5 or 6 people, so it's very easy to keep track of. I don't see myself coming out to anyone else for a while, unless I think it's necessary.

I'm sorry your experience was so bad. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. I hope you can find some good people who will care about you.