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What do you guys think this means?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Confoozed, Jan 31, 2018.

  1. Confoozed

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    Hi all I'm female and am still coming to terms with possibly being bi. I'm usually attracted to butch females and cute males.

    Do you guys think it's weird that I'm more turned on by two guys kissing/ together than two females although I'm into that too as long as it's a butch.

    I find this weird since I don't feature in that scenario i.e. I'm not a male nor do I think I want to be one I think.

    As I said I'm still trying to accept possibly being bi so this is really confusing me, are there others like this?...
     
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    This is confusing the hell out of me, it's all I can look at- boys kissing- I feel sooo weird:/...
     
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    It might just be a kink or something. Try not to stress to much, these things can take a long time to figure out.
     
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    Thanks for replying:slight_smile:...so I tested this out yesterday by checking pictures on the internet and I must say lesbians kissing to me is just bleh, except when there's a butch involved:slight_smile:, but with two guys I'm like I wish that was me!!!

    So you think it's just a kink then?...
     
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    There's a word, "crossdreamer", that means someone who's sexually aroused by fantasies of having the other sex. Crossdreamers are of any sexual orientation and don't identify as transgender; they don't wish to change their body or their social role. It's part of sexuality, like... a fetish, I guess.
     
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    Hm. Are you more fem, butch, somewhere in between? If you are more butch/masc, then identifying with the picture with two fem women might be difficult. For me it sure is. It's not entirely about the style, the behaviour involved is an issue too. Another possible explanation is that if you like guys, two guys are hotter than one, right? Or if you're not into fem women, why would they turn you on? That's totally possible that you can be bisexual but are into masculine gender expression. People have all kinds of preferences.

    Some loose thoughts.
     
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    I know a lot of women of all orientations who are fascinated by man-on-man action. Some of them even watch gay porn. A lot of them write m/m fanfiction - don't even get me started on the fanfiction. In short, yes, there are definitely others out there, and like I said they are straight, bi, lesbian, everyone. In my opinion liking to watch men kissing men doesn't have to change how you think about your orientation unless you want it to.
     
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    Crossdreamer sounds kind of appropriate although I don't think I've ever dreamt of these situations I'm rather looking at pics online and daydreaming...
     
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    I'd say I'm in between, I still dress somewhat feminine although prefer comfy boyish clothes I even buy boys clothes and have no problem with that yet still feel comfy in a dress. I don't care for dolling myself up makeup hair jewelry etc but don't mind how nice I feel if my hair's done. My personality leans more towards tomboy I'm not ladylike at all, to my mother's dismay, but can sporadically act femme. But I'm defenetly not butch more tomboy.

    I don't think it's about liking men that much I'm not turned on by the two particular men in question it's more like I want to be one of them doing the act.

    I'm not attracted to femmes at all I'm into butches.

    Yah I'm still confused...
     
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    Thanks it's good to know I'm not the only one :slight_smile:...
     
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    Guys I'm trying to figure out if I'd actually want to be a boy. Here are my thoughts for and against.

    I don't like that my breasts are growing, I'd prefer them small or be flat chested is fine. But this could just be my wanting to stay a kid and not grow up.

    I hate the feminine body changes like large hips, butt etc. But this could just be because I have low self-esteem when it comes to my body getting bigger as I've had eating disorders before.

    I love how guys have everything easier, no periods, hormonal problems, puberty body shape changes. But this could also be only because I have a lot of medical problems with my period, hormones and body shape.

    I think that's all I can think of at the moment...any thoughts?...
     
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    This is what crossdreaming is about - daydreaming.

    You're a tomboy in terms of gender expression, and how you describe this, it makes sense, which in my opinion can explain why you might not be into two femmes. A tomboy is still leaning masculine, you might simply identify with the masculine person you imagine.

    Of course, how you decide to express your gender is entirely up to you :slight_smile: The nagative relationship with some of your feminine attrabutes - some people would say it is gender dysphoria, however, in my opnion, it can be or it can not be. I personally am sceptical of the concept of body dysphoria... in my opinion it's not something unusual to dislike periods or breasts (hey move and that's irritating) or the feminine body fat. Or to dislike certain facial features. Or body hair. Or your voice. Hips. Butt. Muscle mass. A certain impression your body makes. Or to dislike hormones swings. So all in all it can mean something, but it can also mean nothing. The final decision whether transitioning is for you, and if this is something you want, is up to you and doesn't have to depend on your relationship with your body.
     
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    Thanks for the info yes it could be either something or nothing but since I'm already so confused about a lot of things I don't think I'll want to add more confusion on top of that in the form of transitioning.

    I think I'm comfortable being female even though I dislike some of my body's characteristics.

    But thanks for your help I really appreciate it...
     
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