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Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Crisalide

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    This will go in my list of wise sayings xD
     
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    It's supposedly going to arrive on Monday so I'm pretty excited. Which one were you looking at getting, if you don't mind my asking?
     
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    I can't believe how bashful I immediately became when I read your question, haha. So, I am so new to packers, but not new to strap-ons. As such, I am not entirely certain what I am looking for, though I at least have some kind of direction. Anyway, this one has really stuck in my head since I found it:

    https://www.sinthetics.biz/collections/pre-configured/products/circumcised-packer

    It's definitely a bit pricey, so I am ordering their free silicone sample pack to get a feel for the material before I take the plunge. Also, I will need to come out to my wife first before I make any purchases. Might be a bit awkward if I don't follow a certain order of events... If all goes well (which it genuinely might - I am pretty sure she already suspects) I'll get her opinion on the matter as well.

    I'll let you know how it all progresses.
     
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    I hope I am not spamming this thread; it's just been a very eventful week. I just came out to my wife tonight as potentially trans and it went better than I could have ever hoped. According to her, she had already calculated this as a possibility when we first got together seven years ago and knew that it just didn't matter to her. She said that even if I decided to make a full on transition with surgery and everything, she would be 100% supportive of me and love me just the same. The first thing she said when I told her was, "OK! So how along are we in this, then? Like, what pronouns do you prefer, and when should I use them?" I was stunned. She was happy for me. I am still reeling, but I knew I chose this woman for a reason!
     
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    Today was the first day I'd dressed fully in male clothes, bound my chest and packed since I got my short(er) haircut. To be honest, I was feeling more confident. Although, I haven't come out to any of my family so I was a little nervous about them seeing me present as male.

    It was actually funny because I was expecting a negative reaction when I went to visit my great-grandmother (she's 93!), because she's from a more conservative time. But she just said, "Oh, you're going to be getting all the girls now!" And my grandma (her daughter) got mad and said, "Mom, you know that's [birth name], don't you?!" My great-grandmother replied, "Yes, I know who it is!"

    So I just said, "Thanks, Nan" and I hugged her and she said, "You look lovely, darling." I was not expecting that reaction lol.
     
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    OH MY GOD im soo over the moon happy for you. congrats.
     
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    i think i love your great nan.
     
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    I was on the phone with my brother today, and he said my voice has dropped. So exciting to have it start dropping after just under 3 weeks.
     
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    First time I present myself with chosen name and pronouns to a completely new person and not a friend. Not caring at all about passing xD
    And by the way, maybe there was some attraction between me and her. Or maybe not. Who knows :slight_smile:
     
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    I didn't think I'd love a prosthetic this much. One that I don't need a harness to use! Now, if I could only get an affordable adhesive STP.
     
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    A stranger told me I reminded him of a musician he liked (the musician in question is a guy, but I couldn't catch the name). That made me happy.
     
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    It's been 12 hours, and the adhesive is still holding strong! It's SO much more comfortable to pack with than any other packer I have. It doesn't move around during the day, or look like I have an awkward boner.
     
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    I got told I'm a beautiful girl. But they meant well. As in, I look kind of like a dyke with my hair but I have a cute face and i am a good person.

    I keep getting told I'm beautiful by people ewho don't really know me and I guess that's okay. Used to terrible body dysmorphia and it pushed me to suicidal thoughts. it comes back when i don't look the way I'd like to and I feel ugly.

    THat's TWO beautifuls in the past 4 months. TWO. I'm beautiful. I don't know how I feel about that. I wasn't beautiful enough for this one girl to love me a while back. I wish girls could see in me what these random men did.

    I'm rambling because I'm upset about a lot of things. I can only describe it as .... i wish i was a sociopath who lived alone and didn't have to deal with family and friends right now. It's a lot of things. I have a lot of character flaws and I"m pissed off at myself for it. I'm also pissed off at family and friends for pointing them out, like I'm some retard who can't be fixed.
     
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    so, i havent worn male underwear in over a year except after my surgery, down in that area because i didnt want to get my panties dirty.... but ive been keeping them in the drawer. well tonight, i took them all and burned them...... no more guy underwear in my wardrobe..... that's a victory for me, one well past time but yeah...
     
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    I really enjoy visualizing this scene xD FIRE :grin:
     
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    I finally decided to trust someone with my secret. It went extremely well.
     
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    it was quite a blaze hehe
     
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    yaayyy
     
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    Oh well, not a huge victory but I've finally decided that I'm going to go by Jack because it's close enough to my birth name (which is Jaye) but it's still clearly maleā€¦almost changed my name on a social media account my friends know of but chickened out. I'll do it eventually ><

    I feel like this name's really going to stick this time, I've experimented with a few over the years XD

    AND I'm finally feeling confident enough to upload a picture of myself, only to see if I pass or not (it's still awaiting moderation I think). Never would've done that when I first joined EC lol
     
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    Attraction is tricky, isn't it? You never know if someone is into you or just friendly. Getting physical or confessing how you feel about someone is pretty strong and there is no in-between...
     
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